Distrusting women

First off: sorry about any grammar issues, I've only had 4 hours of sleep last night and have had a LONG day haha

Anyways, Since people don't seem to want to bother with my longer posts, I'm going to keep this short and sweet.

I have a fear of intimacy and emotional attachments. I don't trust women and keep the few women in my life only for selfish reasons such as sex or entertainment without any intentions of letting them close to me emotionally.

I've been hurt by every girlfriend that I've ever had along with my own mother so I keep women at a distance.

I have absolutely no desire to procreate and while I want love, I find forming a regular relationship too much work and too high risk to be worth the reward. I think about everything from a logical standpoint as I see human emotions too unreliable and irrational to live life by.

I spend most of my time focusing on building my internet business. I figure if I become rich the women will be flocking to me. Until then, I choose to remain single and avoid emotional attachments for the reasons above.

Anybody else feel the same way? Or am I as crazy as many make me out to be?

I felt the same way for a long time, but i ended up with a girl that i have known my whole life. it okay to feel as you do. its not crazy. I have been there. I got utterly destroyed by a girl. and i felt just as your described.

I think you're going to continue to have problems until you learn how to invest in a relationship. It's not unlike investing in stocks; you don't put everything you've got into one until you've found a consistent performer. So dating doesn't mean you have to dump all your emotional equity into women. You develop the relationship over time and invest more as time goes on.

Relationships are only high risk if you don't control yourself and work through everything slowly.

Second, you can't be lazy in a relationship. If they're too much work and you just want women to flock to you, you'll have nothing but problems. Which ties into what I was saying above. You don't expect stocks to come running to you, why expect it out of an actual, living person? You have to research (through dating) and invest wisely. It's work, but the rewards, if handled properly, are waaaay higher than the investment you'll put in.

Thanks. I've been thinking a lot about this topic the last few days and I've come to the conclusion that my relations with most females are going to be mostly physical with the exception of a few female friends that I will rely on for emotional support.

I plan on getting out more soon and playing the field a bit and possibly getting into some online dating as well, but I'm most likely going to play them only for sex without actually opening up with the full intent on dumping each one after a few months. If I find a woman who I feel is more likely to accept me, I may reveal some things about myself, but avoid revealing too much and most likely friendzone her. While doing all of this I could build relations with other women who would be potential solid partners slowly like you suggested so that I can have both my immediate needs met and my future planned while remaining in full control. I would also have other women to flock to in the event of one breaking up with me which will prevent me from being hurt or alone.

It sucks that I have to do this and I know being this way can be painful for some women, but pain is the essence of life and all organisms are bound to Social Darwinism with humans being no exception so the way I see it it's either me or them and I refuse to ever be hurt again and will fight like a wounded wolf backed into a corner to preserve my life and well being.

At least I'm reasonably physically attractive even if I am a bit nerdy and while I'm not a body builder or anything, I can appear to be extremely confident even if said confidence is usually faked and I can make myself appear to be an internet celebrity with my background in SEO/Internet marketing and I could even make my Facebook account cap at 5,000 friends via botting, give myself a viral YouTube channel the same way, and use Photoshop to make myself appear to be a supermodel to the rest of the world so women idealize and practically worship me lolol

You do what's best for you, only you know. The reason you have women issues is bc what your mom has done to you. You are afraid to trust women, not to mention girls have hurt you in the past. Hey, concentrate on yourself for a while....

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