In was asked to get this clarified by a chicken friend of mine

Ok ,

Here it goes i was approached by a friend that asked me a serious but direct question that you can say it made my bottom jaw drop ..

Here was the questions -- Is getting emotionally attached to someone over the internet is this considered adultry

My answer to this was YES

2nd He asked if Oral sex is considered adultery ?? Cos there is no penetration ???

My answer is Yes

What is the whole consensus

Agreed...

my question would be how is he getting oral sex over the internet? damn sign me up!!!!!!

Well the clarification is that they are talking about ummm having oral sex might be some web camming going on also

Is wishing someone was dead committing murder?
There are some questions that have no answer.....

i fail to see how getting attached to someone over the internet is adultery. If you meet and consummate that relationship then yes, but talking...no

Negative energy is negative energy.........................

If a tree falls in a forest and nobody is around to hear it does it make any noise?

As for an internet relationship........it depends how far it goes........cause once it enters a different realm it's on it's way to becoming something.........................

and for the second...............sex is sex...............if u want to play semantics we can debate this till someone has .........

but chances are if your heading down this road the relationship your in if your in one is not working or is on it's way out or to being over...............or maybe should be..........

Then there is always the question of intentions..............

The preceeding goes with dedications but I'm being flagged for a commercial break....................................

this is a hard one., (no pun intended) i believe that if its just talking on the internet ........... no......
and as for oral sex on the internet............... im confused.

i would be very careful, what you have to to say, i have the utmost respect for a certain member, and what we do with our lives is none of your business, all you have to go on is maybe what you have heard from others, its really none of your business
as for certain people on psych, they should have good look at themselves before casting the first stone,
some people get off on webcams, showing themselves as nude, we i aint one of them , its for the sick and perverted
because your lifes are so shallow, you have nothing better to do, than to cast judgement on others,
this service here is to help people , and to share, and encourage others, if you can only be negative, well then waste it on someone who really cares
i know there are more than one involved in this, and i know names, certain people , needs to look in their backyard ist
we do not interfere in your life, so stay out of ours

get a life...................

Great answer, if theres one bad grape in a bunch, does it make all of them bad, its just , got no substance.
some people have to really get a life
thanks for your comment, at least theres someone here with half a brain

cheers

I think this was a legitimate question - it shared his opinion and asked for others...Not sure how this thread got so off track?

I agree Direction ,,

I didn't mention any names and I never directed this post to anyone or any situation I asked a question therefore I wanted an answer.

If someone feels guilt here cos of thier situation then that is thier guilt to deal with not mine..

If this post has offended anyone I will apologize and once again it is not directed towards anyone or any situation..

I believe that there was no reference to web camming or anyone being sick...

The statement of being the first one to cast a stone IMHO I think that cos our the lack of reasoning here you Scorpio casted the first stone...

If you feel that I have interfered with anything of your please ask a mutual friend before you decide to jump on a soap box and assume something that is not there

I apologize to you Scorpio if you assum,e this was about you cos in all reality I have no clue whom you are and therefore you really do not exist to me

Tymber

I think this thread is legitimate. Scorpio, it's not nice getting all offensive because of this thread. If you don't like it, talk to a mod to see if it can be taken down (if it exceeds the guidelines.)

I'll post my take on the questions later :-)

"if you can only be negative, well then waste it on someone who really cares"

heed your own advice dude

Too clarify the the situation this post was not directed towards any member as stated by Scorpio's response

Furthermore My beliefs are my beliefs and Im happy with my belief systems


So once again my intent was not to direct any posts towards any PC member

If you do not agree then it is your choice not to read or respond to this post


Tymber

To respond to your 'chicken friend's' question I first looked up 'adultery' in wiki. It is defined as having sexual relations outside of marriage.
Your friend may be alluding to 'infidelity' which wiki defines as 'cheating'; ''any violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of a relationship'. What constitutes an act of infidelity varies between and within cultures, it does not depend on the presence of sexual behaviour.....Fidelity refers to the accuracy and integrity of self-representation, honesty or candor in an intimate, committed relationship. Integrity may be defined as 'the inner sense of wholeness deriving from honesty and consistent uprightness of character.' Infidelity is a breach of that integrity through the use of deception by one party to a committed and not necessarily monogamous relationship. This breach is experienced as a betrayal of an explicit or implicit agreement between the partners to not keep secret those matters now the subject of deception. Deception is defined as 'the covert manipulation of perception to alter thoughts, feeling, or beliefs.'

My wife last summer met some guy she had been "talking to" and they of course had sex. This happened several times after I found out more. Was there something wrong in the marriage...yes. But I feel like you really have to be careful about getting emotionally attached to someone over the internet.....its just a step in the process .....infact I think it speeds the process up of getting to know someone because people say more than they would if they were face to face...so the relationship moves fast.
The oral sex part? um yes I would agree.