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Has anyone out there ever have some sort of performance anxiety, because they feel that their penis size is too small, or inadequate? This is what I suffer from, every time I'm about to have sex.
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Anxiety can and does effect you mentally . If your anxiety and doubt about yourself gets to such a level I'm sure it could block your expected arousal reactions . If it happens a few times I'm sure it would start becoming an elephant in the room where you start focusing on your anxiety instead of what is supposed to be a pleasurable experience .
But your question is if anyone has ever had a performance issue . Yes I remember having one . I was 17 and it was my first go at it . I had been waiting to get my license for months so I could go to the hookers 60 miles away . When I got there I was so nervous I couldn't get it up . Felt destroyed . Dragged my *** away and spent the next week in deep thought of what could be wrong with me . I went back in grim determination a week later and while not breaking any records I got the job done , and was away after that . So yes anxiety about anything can play a part . Pretty much you've got what you've got as far as size goes . Don't let it ruin your intimacy with a partner . You can give yourself and your partner enough pleasure if you focus on that pleasure ..and not things you can't change . Best to finish with a joke . My mate told me a good one years ago . " guy takes of his pants ...girl looks down and sez ..who are you going to satisfy with that ? .. guy sez " me , I'm going to satisfy me with that " |
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However I have paid a prostitute and I couldn't perform so we just sat there hugging like a joke.. I appreciate your courage posting something we don't express more of, than less.. |
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—-ok fellas, you need to know that technique is far more important than size for pleasing a woman. The only lover who could unfailingly bring me to climax had a small penis. Read up, talk to other guys. Really liking and respecting a woman is important for a relationship but if u know about female anatomy you will feel more confident about performing. And guys are not machines. Hugs, lol!!!!!
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As a woman, I don't get much out of intercourse regardless of penis size. I get more pleasure from oral sex. But maybe I'm weird.
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Not weird at all. That's a lot of women. We don't have a magic stick you can just rub on and it spits. We have a tunnel (all of them different), men can't see inside the tunnel so they just have to feel their way to the treasure (g spot). Unfortunate for us, many times they spit before they reach the treasure . Unfortunate for them, we're a lot harder to please.
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Hi there! That is exactly what I am suffering from and I am desparate. What's your story?
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I've not had sex before. but if I were to have sex, I think one of the last things I'd think about is my penis size.
There are many ways to please a lady outside of having a big penis. A man's hand can comfort a lady as well as his tongue can. A man's strength can also please a lady. A man's warmth can please a lady too, as well as his muscles can. I believe that women are more pleased by a man's heart rather than his body. For instance, a man with a small penis, but who takes a lady out on a good date and a good dance will satisfy a lady more than a man with a big penis but who hired her. There are some people who can have surgery to enhance their body parts. Let's compare your concern with another about men thinking of women's cup size. Would you be more excited to have sex with a man who has surgically big breasts or a woman with natural small breasts? Even men are not only attracted to big breasts, but some due consider other factors. I honestly don't like big breast women much. And so I'm sure that some women don't care for penis size. If you are with a lady who explicitly cares about penis size a lot, then I would stay away from that lady. You should stay away from such a lady too, as your worry about performance would cause you stress that you could avoid with the right partner. and honestly, most women (whom I met) don't care about penis size or sex. some of them are actually scared of sex. also, some women fake satisfaction. So you wouldn't really know if your penis size is actually making a difference. However, if you've treated the lady very well before going to bed with her, then you can feel more sure that she is satisfied with you for more than your penis size or performance. |
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I am pretty sure that it is a common concern for a lot of men. As a gay man, I can say that there is definitely a lot of anxiety among our communities regarding this issue, since the penis is a pretty significant aspect of not only intercourse but also simply attracting other men. While one recent study suggests that there are a lot of gay men for whom intercourse is not necessarily the primary end desire in sexual intimacy, it still remains that the penis still plays a primary role in overall gay male sexuality; and feel;ings of inferiority can have an effect on how gay men interact (or don't interact, in the case of avoidance due to inferiority complexes) with one another.
But, it does go back to being able to make your partner feel good, and penis size does not have to be the concern that so many of us make it out to be. |
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just remember that sex is an option. if you get performance anxiety, then just don't have sex, eh? nobody's putting a gun to your head and telling you to have sex.
I honestly feel that if you are thinking about your penis size a lot, then maybe being in sexual situations just isn't too healthy for you. I'm a virgin, so sex is not a need for me. I've not died from lack of sex. It's not really healthy or wise to put yourself in situations that can give you unneeded anxiety, eh? __________________ schizophrenia: https://forums.psychcentral.com/schi...and-psychosis/ men: https://forums.psychcentral.com/men-focused-support/ sex addicts: https://forums.psychcentral.com/sexual-addictions/ sex issues: https://forums.psychcentral.com/sexu...-gender-issues |
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