How do you guys feel?

Coral it sounds like you deserve your perfect husband award...My problem before is that I thought I was giving all I could, but I also took a lot more than she had to offer...since I have gotten the help I needed the broken me is gone...now I try and mend the relationship that I broke with my wife...we have known each other for over 18 years and have been married for seven...she is truly a great person and I realize now that I must do everything I can to make sure she knows that from me...Keep up the good work...don't let it get you down...

LOL...it was just her friend that give me the award

I am far from the perfect husband and know it....but if I start to forget my wife will be sure to remind me.....she is the perfect wife though.....atleast thats what she thinks LOL....I think

i like the way you describe the inter-working of the relationship coral.. not always perfect, but it works and i can hear the love in your words... its hard to self-sacrifice but its what i always heard from my girls.. its a two way street.. i had trouble finding that balance though..

just as well i guess.. i'm needed elsewhere than in a marriage at the moment...

Nowhere you are right it is a two way street...the only problem is I was driving a Hummer and she was in a Yugo...What I am trying to say is she was willing to give as much as she could and all I did was take...but I have gone green with my road choice and realized that I was taking more than I should...so here I sit in my litte golf cart hoping to get a chance to drive down that road again!!!!!

Hi guys,

I appreciate the question, but the purpose of setting up these two gender-specific forums is to allow only men or women to post in their respective forums.

If you have a question about "women," that you want a woman's answer, I suggest posting to the Relationships and Communication forum, or General.

Thanks,
DocJohn

Wow, a DocJohn drive by. Nice. I guess the big man has spoken, no girls allowed.

Cyran0

Well at least there is sign up "No Gurlz Allowwed!"

Dragon,

I understand what you are saying about your current situation with your spouse. I applaud your valiant effort on the working to change yourself . I do want to forwarn you that to keep an change you need to want to change for yourself and not for anyone else. I also understand that you feel that the relationship was majority your fault or misunderstanding ... Think about this .... it takes 2 people to get into a troubled relationship .....

We have bad relationship cos we allow the bad thoughts to dictate our bad behaviors ....

If we had more positive thoughts we change the internal behaviors .. When we as men clicked well within our relationships we thought more positive less pressures within our lives ... It was when we allowed the bad to enter our lives ( thoughts / negative situations ) is when we started to change our behaviors ...

I truly understand all that you are doing and im in support for you in reconcilation of your marriage ... I have been slowly working everyday for over a year to make me better so when the time comes to make that final decision about my marriage I kn ow that I know I have done everything possible


Bless You

David

David,

You know it is funny that you say that about the positive side of things...this weekend I really started to delve into why I was not angry before. Well I realized that it was because I was doing small things (ie when she went scrapbooking I made goodies for her and her friends). This made me happy because I was doing something nice. I was not caught up in my negative thoughts about things. I also realized that my wife is truly my best friend...the person that I can trust, I think that before I found out about my depression I could not trust her (depression lying to me). Now I realize exactly what my wife had to offer me during those times.

As far as me changing I did it for myself because I was in a very dark place and I was scared to death about falling back in there again. I have found small things to occupy my time so I don't have the negative thoughts that made me angry before. Thank you for your support...right now we are working on being friends and I am not pushing the issue of working things out she knows that I love her and that I want us to be together. No sense in beating a dead horse...right?

Dragon

Dragon,

I agree no reason to harp on the things we cannot control at this time //// LET GO LET GOD ....

Talk to God about your mountains and in his timing thou shalt be set free .......

Tell the mountains how BIG OUR GOD IS ...

Remind Satan that he has no dominion over a follower of Christ .... That right now Temporarily he has some control of the situation but our God has the stop watch.... LOL

David

Just think guys , we could all still be living in the garden of Eden if it was not for a women........LOL

JUST KIDDING LADYS....who may read this, if we were not so dumb we would not have fell for it...just kidding,men who actually think they are smart ... LOL