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Default Aug 09, 2019 at 11:20 PM
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Hello. First let me say I hope this is an appropriate section to post this in.

I've noticed I look more like my mother than my father. Now it's not that I don't like how my mother looks or anything, it's just that I'm a male, so I (of course) want to look more masculine, so, more like my father.

When I was younger I even got mistaken for and made fun of because I looked more like a girl. I had really long hair so that helped, but I'm sure since like I said I look more like my mother my face itself has more of a feminine look too.

Now I know it's not possible to completely and totally just remodel your facial structure, but I've read a little bit and know you can change various minor things about it in different ways, like losing weight, treating bags under your eyes etc. So I was just wondering if anybody could recommend some/any ways besides obvious things like growing a beard, and aside from facial reconstruction surgery or anything drastic like that. Thank you.

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Well... I don't know as I have any particularly great ideas for you. But one easy way to make yourself look more masculine relates to what you do with your hair. Either comb it straight back, get a brush cut, or perhaps shave it all off entirely. And then, if you wear glasses, find a heavier more masculine looking frame.

I suppose it's possible you might also be able to do something in terms of working on your facial expressions so that you have a more stern look about you. (Law enforcement officers must get some sort of training like this so they display an air of competency & control.) At least these are the things that occur to me.

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Default Aug 11, 2019 at 05:19 AM
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Well I know there’s this device that strengthens your jaw muscles to give ones face a more defined look. I think it’s called The jawzrsize. But one of the biggest things that is associated with the male form is muscle mass. So I would start hitting the gym and working on your main muscle groups.
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Default Aug 22, 2019 at 06:15 AM
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I think what happens is that some males are more genetically “ female “ than male. In looks , psychologically, etc...... I think all you need to do is stop worrying about how you look and ACT like a man and accept how you “ look “.
Accept how you look , and move on in your life in a “ manly “ fashion.

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Default Apr 03, 2020 at 12:05 AM
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I'm very much a fan of the concept "form follows function". To me, appearing masculine is less about facial structure and body type, and much more about how one composes themselves and the actions they perform. Now, that's not to say you don't have an objectively feminine face, if it's said you have a remarkable resemblance to your mother, you probably do. However, it has been my experience that this will be heavily overshadowed by what you are doing and how you as a person are perceived.
For example, I had a friend in high school who was short, skinny, and had a somewhat feminine facial structure. NOBODY I knew thought of him as feminine, though. He was a farmboy, through and through, did a man's chores, did things typically associated with masculinity, behaved "manly", and I tell you... he was one of the few people at that school I'd not want to get in a fight with. He was a star wrestler who would fireman slam dudes twice his size on a regular basis. To all of us, he was masculine.

So, if you do "manly" things usually by default, and do so to achieve your objective in as quick and efficient a manner as possible (within reason, and without stepping on the boundaries of others), and that's what you ENJOY doing, if this gives you satisfaction... then stop worrying about your immutable features and carry on with your day. They are ultimately inconsequential to what you do and how you do it, as are what people might say of said features. Set yourself as a stone and roll through their observations like a boulder down a hill, they'll get out of the way and you'll do what you want. Do not pause and ponder what is meaningless to your goals. THIS is, to me at least, what it means to be masculine. And form follows function. Be masculine, and you will appear so.

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