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Is anyone a late bloomer? I seem to mature really late. I am 53 now. I feel like a 30 year old.
My mind seem sharpen at this point than when I was in my 20s. How do you guys cope with the issue? |
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Well... I typically avoid replying to posts in the Men-Focused Support forum. But I noticed you had yet to receive replies to this post. So I thought I would write one.
![]() I'm 71 years old now. But I often have to remind myself I'm not 21 anymore. (My body does help with this though by keeping me aware of just how old I really am.) ![]() ![]() There is this thing that tends to happen in middle age, though, that is referred to as the "mid-life crisis" where men especially begin to feel the urge make dramatic changes in their lives. Perhaps that is some part of what you are experiencing? Here are links to 2 articles, from PC's archives, on the subject: The Male Midlife Crisis When Men Feel Trapped: A Practical Guide For me, it was around the age of 50 that the wheels started coming off my cart, so to speak. They've been wobbling off & on again ever since. So I don't think I could say that my mind seemed sharper in my early 50's than it was when I was younger. I guess I was, perhaps, more "settled" & in some ways more mature. But it was also the point where inner conflicts I had kept buried all my life began to get the better of me. The result was 2 major suicide attempts one around the age of 50, the second around the age of 60. (I seem to be on something of a 10 year cycle.) ![]() I always assumed, I guess, that the inner conflicts I kept buried all of my life would gradually resolve themselves as I got older. But what has occurred instead is that I've just gotten crazier. So I always like to encourage younger folks to do what they can to resolve their mental-health issues while they're young because, for one thing, the older you get the less the mental-health services system cares about your problems. And for another (at least based on my own experiences) you don't get saner with age... you just get weirder. ![]() __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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I am not sure it is midlife crisis. |
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I would say I peaked both personally and professionally at around 40. Had my first huge manic episode in 2005 at 41, and it has been all downhill from there.
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I'm 43, so not quite as old as you yet, however, I don't feel any different to how I did when I was 21 and I don't expect to feel any different when I am 60. I am who I am right now and that's it.
I think your issue is your expectation of how a 53 year old should feel is different from the reality. Seems to me you're exactly where you should be on your life right now. |
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