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Aug 12, 2020 at 05:18 PM
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It is an interesting question... until a couple of years ago I thought talking to other men about stuff was just plain weird. Then I went to a mens group where men talked to other men about anything they want. It was so amazing being around other men in a non competitive, vulnerable and supportive environment.
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Aug 13, 2020 at 11:33 AM
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Hello baritone: I see this is your first post here on PC. Welcome to Psych Central.
 Actually I think variations on your question have been addressed in a couple of other threads here in the Men's forum a while back. Here are links to the ones I found. You might take a look at them: Are you comfortable opening up on this forum? Calling on the men of PCF Personally, no. I'm not comfortable opening up to men. In fact I'm not comfortable around men period. (Actually I'm not that comfortable around women for the most part either.) So I just keep to myself as much as possible. I also rarely reply to threads posted here in the Men-Focused Support forum. Typically the main reason I do (& the reason I replied to yours) is when it's a post by a new member which is primarily what I do here on PC in general. Here's a link to an article, from Psych Central's archives, that may be of interest to you: 5 Reasons Men Are So Devastatingly Lonely I hope you find PC to be of benefit. 
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Aug 16, 2020 at 12:27 AM
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Really depends on the context for me. Men I know in daily life, for the most part no, I'm not comfortable opening up to them. I've a few men I know whom I trust enough to be vulnerable with, and even then, it's very situational, and the situations within which I feel like I can open up are rare. I do have one friend with whom I share a closer relationship, one that if I felt I really needed someone to talk to, he's who I'd call. I think every man needs at least one man like that in their life, maybe two or even three. But I also feel that one shouldn't be looking for many, because I feel that in order to develop that kind of camaraderie, it requires a lot of time invested into the relationship, and you just can't achieve that with many more than two or three. And even on here, where there's a measure of anonymity... it just feels odd to open up, wrong even, though necessary it can be.
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Aug 16, 2020 at 01:02 PM
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It really depends. It depends on what I'm talking about to men. I guess I think there are some men I open up to, but they really have to be close friends for me to do that. I am kind of bad about making friends with women. I need to do a better job with that. But it's ok, it takes time to develop good relationships with people. I have more male friends than female friends for sure.
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Aug 25, 2020 at 07:00 AM
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That Is great that you found a men's group you can open up to! I was never able to open up to men until I was an adult. Now I have a few men I can really open up to and I see the value in it! There are some men I have learned that it is not safe to open up to. Either because they went and told other people my secrets, or because they make me feel intimidated.
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Sep 07, 2020 at 04:35 PM
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I still cannot open up to men. If I open up about my issues, I would probably be ridiculed for not being man enough. I am gay and opened up to my ex-BF, and he started to use my issues against me. Learned my lesson after that.
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