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Feb 08, 2008 at 07:59 PM
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Do you think women find men who are depressed and pessismistic to be wimps and unattractive? I have been single for 4 years.
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Feb 08, 2008 at 08:03 PM
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oops Meant: Depression, pessimism in MEN:
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Feb 08, 2008 at 08:10 PM
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i think women can sense things about men... i think they look for certain traits and possibly grade us on where in the scale we fit...
i dont think being depressed is unattractive to all women, but i think they search for partners who exhibit traits they can identify with... just guessing, but i think women search for traits in a partner that compliment her own self percieved traits in a way... i think women begin a search for a mate with hopes of survival in mind... some character traits may appeal to her more than others.. as a depressive, i can say with certainty it affected all my relationships, not only romantically... i think the experience of depression has taught me many things about who i dont want to be... timeforsleep... just dont ever let your current self view become fixated in your mind as if that is all there is and all there ever will be... growth and change can happen... |
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Feb 09, 2008 at 12:15 PM
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nowheretorun said: i think women can sense things about men... i think they look for certain traits and possibly grade us on where in the scale we fit... i dont think being depressed is unattractive to all women, but i think they search for partners who exhibit traits they can identify with... just guessing, but i think women search for traits in a partner that compliment her own self percieved traits in a way... i think women begin a search for a mate with hopes of survival in mind... some character traits may appeal to her more than others.. as a depressive, i can say with certainty it affected all my relationships, not only romantically... i think the experience of depression has taught me many things about who i dont want to be... timeforsleep... just dont ever let your current self view become fixated in your mind as if that is all there is and all there ever will be... growth and change can happen... </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Yes I see what you mean. I think most women see it as unnattractive and unmanly. I am a coward in many ways in my life so that is just one of them. It is very difficult. __________________ "Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live." —Norman Cousins |
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Feb 09, 2008 at 01:07 PM
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time.. i think if you took ten random guys, ten random girls... told each group this is all there is.. nothing more to choose from... each one is gonna find a match.. what do you think?
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Feb 10, 2008 at 11:43 AM
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I think most of the time, yes. But some people are repulsive and I think I am one of them. I don't write that to get sympathy or anything.
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Feb 10, 2008 at 07:19 PM
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What do you mean by repulisve?
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Feb 11, 2008 at 11:34 AM
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timeforsleep said: I think most of the time, yes. But some people are repulsive and I think I am one of them. I don't write that to get sympathy or anything. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> it may take time, timeforslep, but the self view you currently have can evolve... work at it cause, in my case, it didnt take care of itself... you can begin to think of yourself more positively, and therein as more attractive, by finding even one good trait... c'mon... you have one... it takes time... we'll help.... did you see Beauty and the Beast? .. a cartoon, ok... a lot f truth there tho... if you want to be like a rockstar, well, truth is, probably you are far from that... but, those guys lives arent always what the media presents... i could make clips of your life and make it appear as romantic and grand... we all have a story time... yours is important as theirs, maybe more so... i know 'mainstream' follows a path to somewhere... but, imho, society is not the best teacher in all things... you have value, worth and something to offer the world... let it grow, develop... give it time... dont defeat yourself with negative thinking... |
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Feb 23, 2008 at 03:51 PM
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timeforsleep said: Do you think women find men who are depressed and pessismistic to be wimps and unattractive? I have been single for 4 years. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> a very smart (and hot) woman i dated once said to me 'guys are sexy when they do stuff.' so, my question to you is ... what are you doing? |
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