[Ree-66]

Wow, I don't even know how or where to start..I'm going to do my best not to make this an excruciating long post so I apologize in advance if it's a lengthy one.
My husband and I have been married almost 11 yr.s.We both were married prior to ours and we each have kids from our previous marriages..I have 4 and he has 5..All 4 of our daughters are bi-polar and between all 9 of them 4 are recovering heroin addicts and 2 are alcoholics with one of them in recovery..We have had major issues with our kids as you can imagine even though they're all grown and on their own but all of them put together don't equal the hell my mother-in-law has put us through up until 2 weeks ago!..Back in October we moved her from Chicago to where we are after having found out that between my husbands sister and his younger daughter they've stolen about $50k from her and her health had been seriously neglected..Well the woman has never liked me right from the start even though I have honestly never been anything but good to her..Now we know why but found out only recently..From the first day she moved in with us it was a living nightmare..She not only tried to take over complete control of my house but took her hate for me out on our dog to where we couldn't leave them home alone together..She insulted me at every turn, caused serious arguements between me and my husband and even though she gave him control over her finances she refused to let him report the theft to law enforcement and tried to undue the things he spent countless sleepless nights to fix..I noticed very quickly that she was doing a lot of malicious things on purpose of course at the time hubby wouldn't hear of it and blamed it on her age..Anyway about 4 months ago our oldest son moved down here and him and my MIL got a house a few blocks from us and it was actually worse then when she lived here..Anytime my husband and I would be talking about something other then her or a member in my family she would interrupt and make the conversation about her..Then she started with the snide comments and insults about me and her and my husband would argue at least 4 times a week..I finally stopped speaking to her and refusing to go to her house and my husband wouldn't answer if she called because she always wanted him to do something for her and if he said no it some how became my fault!..well she's always accused me of being the reason he doesn't talk to his kids and now started telling everyone I'm trying to come between her and my husband..So to keep this post from dragging on I'll jump ahead to the recent event..Hubby and I were taking us,his son and our 9 yr.old grandson to a baseball game and 2 days before we were supossed to go she invited his other son and nephew to come down..Well not only did she want me to give up my ticket so his nephew could go but my grandsons as well so his other son could go..She then told hubbys oldest son to ask my husband if on Father's Day my kids and I could stay at our house and he could go over there to be with his kids!!..So now she's sunk to a new low because she has now manipulated my step-son into thinking my husband said no because he loves me and my kids more and since he (step-son) bought the tickets he wouldn't let us have them so now she's for the most part attacking my grandson..this was the last straw and after consulting with the Dr and a massive amount of research we've come to the conclusion that she's a text book narcissist..So we made the decision that day to completely cut her off and since his kids do her dirty work them as well..I hope we've made the right decision..My husband is absolutely heartbroken because now that we're aware of this and he's opened his eyes as we look at past incidences with her he sees just how intentional the things she's done and said have been..He's now extremely depressed and I really think he may have PTSD because of what she's done to him..So did we do the right thing by cutting them off?..I can only hope because I can't allow him to suffer this type of abuse from her anymore..Opinions are greatly appreciated and I apologize for such a long post!

[VoNPD]

Hi There for all of your family - it does sound like hell.

I have come to learn that this forum may not be the best of help for you. I was directed to the Caregivers Support page when I asked for comments and help dealing with an N.

This Forum is actually for the Narcissists to talk with each other.

IMHO, Your husband and yourself should take advantage of counseling to recover and retrain your 'self' to n e v e r entertain bad behavior from anyone ever again. It's helping me a lot!

VoN

ps: YES, you are doing the right thing!!

[Cleaning up]

From what I read, this forum is NOT exclusively for those with NPD, but is a forum to discuss issues resulting for NPD, am I wrong? ''

To the OP, good luck, your situation is too complicated for simple advice.