[starting_over]

Hi everyone,

I'm self-identified as a narcissist of the "vulnerable" type. It's good to see a forum devoted to this disorder. There's a lot of stigma attached to the condition. We're more used to hearing it used as an insult than as a way of identifying people who need help. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure that narcissists are very difficult people to be around and can be incredibly destructive but we also need a place where we can get away from the shame that comes with the condition so that we can be honest with ourselves about what our problem is and look at ways to become healthier people.

So yeah, I just wanted to put that out there. I hope we see more posts on this forum.

I guess another reason that there are so few posts on here is because narcissists find it so difficult to be honest with themselves. Again, there's no shame in that. I hope this can be a safe place where narcissists can let their defences down and open up - as and when they feel ready.

Thanks for reading. I basically wanted to say hi and let people know that I'm ready to start opening up about my narcissistic traits.

Best wishes

[ihatedepechemode]

Everyone has narcissistic traits, but npd is a different/more §evere thing, atleast by society's viewpoints.

[starting_over]

Yeah. I'm not diagnosing myself with NPD as such. But if my narcissistic traits are seriously hurting my life then I think that I need to address them.

So many thoughts, learning what is real and what I believed to be real oh how great this is. If you hAVe traits why speak the way you do? NPD to me I hate more than ever. I loved it before becoming aware of it and now that I know the back and forth has me crazy at times!!

Helloooooooooo

[Fuzzybear]

hello. I'm not a narcissist. But hi anyway.

[ihatedepechemode]

Hello. I'm also one. I go from periods of thinking I can change or adapt to not. I think I'm just accepting who I am. After all, you cant mourn what you've never had.

[Thorn Bird]

I think accepting is a start. Nobody would expect you to be and behave suddenly in a different way. I think it is so good that you are examining your traits and the reasons behind them - trying to be as introspective as possible. The root is very often shame which goes way back to childhood and is the reason this new persona is developed over the years. It is so painful to regress and even more so to change I suppose it all depends on the individual there are many happy with their lives - there are others who know they live with pretense and denial.