[anneo59]

this is not my diagnosis, and it wasn't always thus, between us. Looking at it, I can see why he's saying this. I think I have been using as a coping mechanism. It's complicated really. Am trying to move forward. Much to learn about this, here on PC.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Welcome to the forum, I hope you can find some answers here. If you have any questions or anything feel free to post them.

Welcome as my wife claimed I was one too which has helped me understand so much since doing so. Like Atypical wrote post more here and there are good ones in this forum with some great insight for one another. Good luck into furthering your knowledge or seeing that the truth is in fact you are suffering with what so many of us do. Here we can relate all too well so read some of what is written in this forum and if it hits the nail on the head then welcome!!!

[winter4me]

Do be sure to get an opinion other than your husband's in this (even if he is describing accurately, you say things were not always so; someone who is narcissist is always so...); Just a good idea to get a real handle on what is going on within you and in the relationship so that you can begin to address the problem(s) in a way that can work.
Take care.

[anneo59]

Originally Posted by winter4me

Do be sure to get an opinion other than your husband's in this (even if he is describing accurately, you say things were not always so; someone who is narcissist is always so...); Just a good idea to get a real handle on what is going on within you and in the relationship so that you can begin to address the problem(s) in a way that can work.
Take care.

ty very much, I thought that was true, so that's one thing I've learned as well as others on this forum!!! Appreciate it very much. Think it has become very popular to label people so and even to imtimidate them that way! Tho sometimes I know it's true. Guess I heard it's also a popular current reason for divorce!!! Maybe like alcoholism used to be, or was!!!!!