[FlowerPots]

It's me, FlowerPots. I'm bringing you some good news: I finally realised that my parent is a Narcissist. I discovered it by listening to support groups about it and reading articles thereafter.
I now understand why I'm different from most people. From most children. I realised that our life at home wasn't normal. It's dysfunctional and that it took away from me the ability to appreciate and show affection. It's been hard. I know that it's not easy to grow up without a role model...I'm trying.

I'll leave you some of these articles that I thought was really 'spot-on' for me.
Introvert Narcissists are More Dangerous – Part 1 -Covert Narcissist Part 1

Introvert Narcissist at Home:Watch Out! – Part2 -Covert Narcissist Part 2

Have a nice day everyone.

[Atypical_Disaster]

My mother is a malignant narcissist and my father is a psychopath. I was unaffected by my parents’ not so great behavior, however, as I’m psychopathic myself (psychopathy & sociopathy are called Antisocial Personality Disorder in the DSM-5, and that’s one of the biggest categorical mistakes in there). My little sister though, is another story, she had a far more difficult time and is riddled with PTSD, depression, anxiety, and she has dissociative identity disorder (DID).

As many fights as I’ve been in with my father (he and I are both incredibly willful), my mother is all in all the more difficult one to deal with. My father and I are also far healthier than we used to be and have become quite “pro social” and are what’s called “successful” psychopaths by some.

My mother, not so much. She’s still very unhealthy and loves to play the usual games narcissists play.

My mother loves to think of herself as an “introvert” because it fits her image of being oh so above everyone else because “introvert” is a trendy word to mean a misunderstood genius who must “turn inward” from time to time to get a break from the cruel word that just won’t ever understand her. (Cue the “woe is me” nonsense.)

I’ve learned that for my mother, “introverted” and “turning inward” means she has an excuse to inflict the silent treatment on whoever’s slighted her ego recently. Pfft.

[MsLady]

Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

My mother is a malignant narcissist and my father is a psychopath. I was unaffected by my parents’ not so great behavior, however, as I’m psychopathic myself (psychopathy & sociopathy are called Antisocial Personality Disorder in the DSM-5, and that’s one of the biggest categorical mistakes in there). My little sister though, is another story, she had a far more difficult time and is riddled with PTSD, depression, anxiety, and she has dissociative identity disorder (DID).

As many fights as I’ve been in with my father (he and I are both incredibly willful), my mother is all in all the more difficult one to deal with. My father and I are also far healthier than we used to be and have become quite “pro social” and are what’s called “successful” psychopaths by some.

My mother, not so much. She’s still very unhealthy and loves to play the usual games narcissists play.

My mother loves to think of herself as an “introvert” because it fits her image of being oh so above everyone else because “introvert” is a trendy word to mean a misunderstood genius who must “turn inward” from time to time to get a break from the cruel word that just won’t ever understand her. (Cue the “woe is me” nonsense.)

I’ve learned that for my mother, “introverted” and “turning inward” means she has an excuse to inflict the silent treatment on whoever’s slighted her ego recently. Pfft.

Your story reminds me of my (NDP?) sister who refers to herself as an "artist" whenever she flies off the handle.

"Artists" are known to be "sensitive" and the "only reason" why she can be "emotional" at times. The only truth to her story is that she truly is an artist. Her drawings and paintings are beautifully done. Unfortunately, she struggles with everything and everyone in her life. Sad.

[ARaven0137]

Thanks for sharing that. I've mentioned a stalker who I believes has BPD, but has also shown me some over the top arrogant behavior in spite of the fact that he is shy and introverted. The article makes sense. Nearly everything that he did was to try to manipulate me (unsuccessfully) into bed because he felt he deserved it.

[MsLady]

I really liked this article because it explains the difference between hypersensitivity and hypersensitive narcissism:

Are you a highly sensitive person? Or a covert narcissist?

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks for sharing this FlowerPots. My parent also is a Narcissist.

[TicTacGo]

Hi there.

I'm a little late to the conversation.

Covert narcissism is a thing that from what I have heard, can be difficult to spot. Even to therapists, because it can present as depression and be treated as such without much or any improvement.

I find this all very fascinating, because unlike grandiose narcissists, the covert (or vulnerable) narcissist does not have the charisma and charm, and can play the martyr, as well as being passive-aggressive and bitter.