[kackerlacka]

So me and my gf would always video chat. her name is kayla btw...all the time. and I never had a problem with it. then one day we watched a movie and then my ocd was like "What if you only love the concept of kayla and not the real kayla" Im video chatting her because she is away at school. And now, when I video chat her my ocd like makes me believe and think that she is a different person than I talk to and used to video chat and its killing me. because I planned a special day in 21 days and I don't want this obsessing to drag out that long. I wanna think of her how I always thought of her. I do not know what to do anyone help or give feedback or input please And when I say concept I mean the though of her in my head.

so im worried about

A) The concept of kayla in my head is not the same as REALITY kayla
B) That my mental view towards her/of her has changed for no reason, like she changed in my ocd mind, but she has not changed AT ALL, but due to my ocd im freaking out.

I need help input or anything

thanks guys. Btw im new here hi all ;(

[Travelinglady]

Hi, kackerlacka, and welcome to Psych Central! I think to some extent we all deal with this issue of how we want to see someone versus how they really are, especially early in relationships, so please relax. When you see her, just stay in the moment and enjoy the time together. Okay?