[BeaFlower]

As some of you know, I'm considering to tell my parents that I think to have OCD and maybe I should see a psychologist...but I'm considering it since a quite long time and I didn't find the courage yet It's so embarrassing for me, and then I don't want to scare them. I'm still wondering if it's better to tell it to them or not.
Do you think that it's possible to tell them without going into details? I mean, I don't want to tell them exactly how my obsessions and compulsions are, expecially the religious ones. But how can I make them understand that I think that I have OCD without saying this? And also if I try maybe they would ask questions. I don't know if it's possible.
I realized now that maybe this is a silly question But maybe you have advices about how I can tell them, or about IF it's better to tell them or not...
Sorry if my question is quite similar to another that I made, but I really don't know what to do...

[kaliope]

if you don't want to reveal the details I don't think it is necessary. I would just tell them that you have been struggling with some things and you think it is best that you see a psychologist. they will probably question what those things are and you can say you are not ready to talk about them yet but assure them it is nothing that will bring harm. you are not suicidal or anything like that. that you do not know how to talk aobut it you are hoping a phd will help you be able to express yourself. I hope this helps.....take care..

[BeaFlower]

I like this idea. I had thought too that I could tell them just that I'd like to talk to a psychologist...the problem is that I don't know if they would accept that I don't explain them the reason...usually they respect my privacy, but if they are worried for me (and surely they would be) and don't know if they would do it as usual.
Maybe I could be ready to talk to a psychologist (also thanks to the support that I got here), but I'm more scared at the idea to talk to my parents
Do you think that it would be a good idea to see a psychologist before telling them? Someone suggested me it. It could be a solution, but I don't know if I'd had this courage...and I'm also worried that they remain badly because I didn't want to tell them.
Thank you so much for answering

[SeekerOfLife]

Actually, it is up to you IF you tell them anything at all. I am in therapy and have told no one IRL. This is what I am comfortable with. Hope this helps.

[BeaFlower]

Originally Posted by seekersinking

Actually, it is up to you IF you tell them anything at all. I am in therapy and have told no one IRL. This is what I am comfortable with. Hope this helps.

You're right...the problem is that if I don't tell them I don't know how to do to have therapy, if I need it...I don't want to go without telling them And it would also be difficult on a practical point of view.

[vish007]

tell them rightaway, until u tell them how can they help u , u need support, its not ur fault that u have ocd, so no need to ocd, more u will struggle more depression will u get, thats why tell them and consult and a pychologist

[SeekerOfLife]

Is this an issue with medical insurance?

[BeaFlower]

No, I mean that I'm not used to go somewhere without telling them, my parents always know where I go (and in general this is ok for me), so I couldn't go to see a therapist without telling them, and I don't want to lie telling that I go somewhere else.

It's completely okay to tell them you're going only because you want them to know.

It's also completely okay not to tell them all the reasons why you're there - because you don't want them to know.

Say all that you want to say.

And keep all that you want to keep to yourself.

There's no harm in that.

If your parents can't understand that then you may face a real struggle there... Really you decide whether they respect your wishes or not. They can't force words out of your mouth that you don't form.

It's fine to wish for their acceptance but it's also fine for your to wish for their acceptance that you won't be telling everything.

[BeaFlower]

Thank you so much for you kind message floating.feather

Originally Posted by BeaFlower

Thank you so much for you kind message floating.feather

Sure! I've been facing the same thing lately but what I think makes it easier is that I've been through this before now

I really hope it works out; keep us updated okay

[BeaFlower]

Ok

[standardizedgirl]

I haven't told anyone, but am seeking hold for OCD. I know how it feels. I eventually have to muster up and tell my dad and brother. I decided to get help first and come to terms with having OCD before I share it with them. I think it will be easier that way. I don't know if me relating to this helps, but I hope you do what's good for you in the long run

[ombrétwilight]

Hi, I too feel that you should only share what you are comfortable sharing. After all, therapy is about yourself and it's very personal, which is something even our parents should respect. I do not share a close relationship with mine (in fact they caused most of my current issues) so I will never be ready to discuss my problems with them. They only know about my suicidal ideation because my school contacted them, and that was extremely awkward and uncomfortable.

I know you stated that you do not wish to lie to your parents, but perhaps if your distress at sharing this info overrides your wish to be honest, you could see your school counsellor first (I am assuming you are still studying). That way, your parents would not be suspicious of your whereabouts and you can simply avoid the topic, thereby still remaining truthful. If you have to share, then maybe printing out your speech and passing it to them could help a little?

[BeaFlower]

Hi, thanks for caring. I study at university, I'm not sure if there is a counselor...I could try to find out. I'd prefear to find the courage to talk to them, but also this could be a solution. About the fact to print the speech...I thought it too, but I think that it could be even more uncomfortable I don't know. I have to think about all this...but quickly, because I want to solve the problem soon.
Thanks again for answering

[BeaFlower]

Just an update: soe days ago I told something to my mum. I just told that sometimes I feel the desire to talk to a psychologist, without saying why and neither that I'd like to see one soon. I've been very generic. I took the idea here at PC She said that for her it would be fine. It went well. But now if I really want to go I'll have to touch the topic again, being a bit more specific. And I'll have to tell it also to my dad...this scares me more. I don't think that he'll find it as 'normal' as my mum, and I don't know if this time they'll easily accept that I don't tell them the reason. But at least I've done the first step.
Thanks for all te support I imagined that you would have liked to know.