[littlemissblue]

Hi everyone, I just joined this forum coz I really needed someone that knows whats going on to talk to. I've just been diagnosed with OCD, however mine focuses alot on having catastrophic thoughts on the past and future. I've battled with almost all the common themes but I'm currently stuck with questions about others that I can't seem to solve. Just a month ago I had this random thought of - what if my current boyfriend has had murdered someone before but had never told me about it? Note that I had no evidence whatsoever but yet its enough to make my anxiety peak. My brain started to give me more and more questions that normal people wont even think about and I started to fear that, what if others are living a lie just because they never questioned such things? I'm scared that I will uncover things I wouldnt had known if I don't have these obsessive and intrusive thoughts. Can anyone help me out of this brain lock? Thank you so much!

[Skeezyks]

Hello littlemissblue: Welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

From the Skeezyks' perspective the trick here is to simply allow thoughts, such as the ones you're having, to come-&-go. Think of them as pesky little trolls. Breathe into them, smile to them & accept them with lovingkindness & compassion. They have no real power over you beyond what you give them. Trying to block, or stuff down these kinds of thoughts simply makes them come back all that much stronger. My best wishes to you...

[cincidak]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hello littlemissblue: Welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

From the Skeezyks' perspective the trick here is to simply allow thoughts, such as the ones you're having, to come-&-go. Think of them as pesky little trolls. Breathe into them, smile to them & accept them with lovingkindness & compassion. They have no real power over you beyond what you give them. Trying to block, or stuff down these kinds of thoughts simply makes them come back all that much stronger. My best wishes to you...

I totally agree. Don't judge these thoughts. They are junk thoughts, nothing more. Give them no value. Let them in, and let them out. Remind yourself that they are junk thoughtsand just say "whatever, that's a junk thought"

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[littlemissblue]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hello littlemissblue: Welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

From the Skeezyks' perspective the trick here is to simply allow thoughts, such as the ones you're having, to come-&-go. Think of them as pesky little trolls. Breathe into them, smile to them & accept them with lovingkindness & compassion. They have no real power over you beyond what you give them. Trying to block, or stuff down these kinds of thoughts simply makes them come back all that much stronger. My best wishes to you...

Thank you so much... Ill try my best! How do you deal with the fear and the "it feels real" feeling?

[littlemissblue]

Originally Posted by cincidak

I totally agree. Don't judge these thoughts. They are junk thoughts, nothing more. Give them no value. Let them in, and let them out. Remind yourself that they are junk thoughtsand just say "whatever, that's a junk thought"

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Thank you! How do I know they are junk thoughts and not worth thinking abt? Is it the fear that makes it feel so important? How do I know when I should care about them?

[MusicLover82]

My obsessive thoughts seem to be due to brain chemistry. Have you seen a psychiatrist or tried medication? Sometimes they can help. The psychiatrist can at least give you something for the anxiety when it gets really bad.

I take NAC, a supplement that my psychiatrist recommended for my obsessive thoughts. It helps to lessen the obsessive thoughts immensely. This is my favorite brand: https://www.amazon.com/Source-Natura...1&keywords=NAC

I like what Skeezyks and cincidak both said. Your obsessive thoughts have no power over you, so just tell yourself "That's an obsessive thought, not reality," as much as you can. Also, don't act on compulsions. Compulsions just perpetuate the cycle with the obsessive thoughts. If you think you do compulsions a lot, read this book: The OCD Workbook by Bruce Hyman and Charlene Pedrick. It helped me a LOT! Best wishes for peace of mind.

[cincidak]

Originally Posted by littlemissblue

Thank you! How do I know they are junk thoughts and not worth thinking abt? Is it the fear that makes it feel so important? How do I know when I should care about them?

I know they are junk thoughts because they become consuming. I too suffer from the occasional catastrophic thinking. Usually when I'm driving. "What if I get t-boned and become paralyzed. What if I hit a pedestrian? " etc. Rational fears, but elevated to a place of extreme importance despite their unlikely hood to happen. I call these "what if" scenarios. I acknowledge the thought then let it go without attaching importance to it because I know it's anxiety. Medication has certainly helped give me the ability to manage my ocd better, but therapy has helped a great deal. Are you taking medication, or in therapy?

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