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Oct 07, 2016, 05:20 PM
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Is it possible to have pure O but just about guys? I seriously obsess about whatever guy is the object of my affection and won't stop until I have a new guy that replaces him... It's always a focus on just one guy and no one else. I either want to totally dominate and consume him, or for him to totally ravage me. It is totally obsessive... It's all I can think about and I want to learn everything I possibly can about the object of my affection... And if we were in a relationship of any sort where they were in a position of power (boyfriend, therapist, lawyer, etc) and they broke off the relationship because I was too needy sending texts at all hours incessantly, and phone calls, etc... I obsess even more until the next guy come along... It's so bad that one person has threatened me with a "Cease and Desist" legal action, and another one with a restraining order.... Helpp! This new guy is totally becoming an obsession I don't know what to do with!!! He wants to have sex with me (and only that, as in I am a sex object to him) and then what? I'll probably obsess even more if we have sex!! Hopefully we keep being "**** buddies" for awhile so I don't have a gaping hole that I need to find my next fix to obsess over.... I'm in therapy but we haven't discussed this much as we are focused on learning DBT skills... Have any of you experienced something like this? What did you do??? Help! I want to be with him all the time and if I'm not there, text/call/message and know where he's at or what he's doing... It sucks, I don't want to be this way, but the urge is so strong I don't know if I can help it!!!
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Oct 09, 2016, 12:39 AM
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I'm dealing with an obsessive crush right now, too, and I have decided I need to back off and not act out on my compulsions to check to see if she's texted me or checking her Facebook to see what she's saying. I'm still going to be friends with her, but I need to stop acting out with compulsions. From what I understand, compulsions can encourage obsessions to continue. So if you're not already friends with this guy, I wouldn't have contact with him if you can help it. That's my advice, for what it's worth. I hope your obsession stops!
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