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Default May 30, 2022 at 08:35 AM
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Thank you Beth. I donít currently use hand lotion, but I do use cuticle oil. Iím not sure, but for me it seems a balancing act of paying just enough attention to keep myself groomed, but not so much attention Iím focusing on little flaws. That, and finding habit replacements for the picking and being aware of where/when Iím likely to engage in the picking.

When I did the most damage to my fingers most recently, I was in my car at lunch. I was thinking of putting a spare cuticle oil pen in my bag, so when I do get that urge to pick my fingers, I might oil my cuticles instead. Other potential habit replacements are drawing (which I have been doing lately) & knitting (which I have yet to begin again).
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Default May 31, 2022 at 12:57 PM
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Using the oil pen when you feel the urge to pick is a great idea. For the past few months I've had a lot of sleep trouble, so I'm tending to lie in bed and tear at my cuticles. After reading an article about the types of infections one can get from cuticle tears I was creeped out, and managed to stop for a full 24 hours. Then I started again. So I'm back to square one, determined to stop...again.

Thank you, Float, for writing so candidly about this miserable issue - which I suspect is far more common than we may think it is.

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Aw, thank you Beth. Yes, I also have sleep issues. Not every night, thank goodness, but enough that itís had a negative impact on my wellbeing. I take a magnesium in the afternoon to relax me and a melatonin before bed, but it doesnít always work. And then yesterday & today Iíve leaned into the bathroom mirror & picked my face. Ugh! Once I start, I donít want to stop, but tomorrow is another day...
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I've been considering buying a magnesium cream that you rub on the bottoms of your feet at bedtime. Apparently, many Americans lack magnesium.

The past couple of days have been slightly better with regard to scratching and picking. I am forcing myself to use a clipper thing, rather than tear. So I'm proud of that. But the weird thing is that I actually miss the "good" feeling that happens when I scratch and tear my cuticles. I really wonder what that's about. It feels instinctual. I wonder if it's an instinct gone off in the wrong direction.

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I've been considering buying a magnesium cream that you rub on the bottoms of your feet at bedtime. Apparently, many Americans lack magnesium.

The past couple of days have been slightly better with regard to scratching and picking. I am forcing myself to use a clipper thing, rather than tear. So I'm proud of that. But the weird thing is that I actually miss the "good" feeling that happens when I scratch and tear my cuticles. I really wonder what that's about. It feels instinctual. I wonder if it's an instinct gone off in the wrong direction.

YES, tomorrow is another day. Keep that hope going
Yes, I think I know what feeling youíre talking about: itís like a release.

Well, I am currently at 4.5 days no picking face, lips, & skin around fingernails. Iíve been trying to wash my face as soon as possible after getting home from work in the afternoons. The longer I wait, the more likely I am to lean into the mirror and start picking.
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4.5 days is fabulous! Good for you!!

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Well. I was doing so good up until about 3 days ago, & then the combination of being on the rag, having a cold, & working 6 days/40+ hours a week helped torpedo my progress. Iím still not picking my fingernails, but I am picking my face, lips, & the skin around my fingernails. /:
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....& then I picked my fingernails...
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Ok, I want to start making more of an effort to replace these picking behaviors with less destructive behaviors starting again now. I can do it; Iíve done it before. Itís simple, but itís not easy.
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Welp, I lasted 4 days. Pretty good. Better than 3 days. Ordinarily I would encourage myself to start again by telling myself something like ďtomorrow is another dayĒ, but thatís exactly what Iím afraid of. Today really kicked my butt. Working 6 days a week for 43-48 hours doesnít help. My work transfer is still only status ďsubmittedĒ. Iím supposed to get an offer letter in the mail next week I guess? Even if I donít get it, I have a break in service next month. Iím ready to not be around my coworkers for five days straight. I can live with that.
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I havenít even been trying to not pick & it shows. My fingers are raw & thereís a spot on my face that looks like Iíve been burned. Once things settle down I will try again.
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Ok, Iím starting again today. I made a spread in my dot journal to track my progress for the monthÖ
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Good for you!
I was doing pretty well for about a month, then starting tearing at my cuticles again. I'm so frustrated with myself, but I'm making a huge effort to stop, at least for as long as I can.

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Default Sep 22, 2022 at 02:09 PM
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Sorry you're struggling with this I have been struggling with it too. I also pick at my nails and cuticles, and I picke at the skin on my neck and ears, I can't stop unless my hands are doing something else. I also started drawing again to give my hands something else to do and it has been somewhat helpful

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I got up out of bed last night to pick at my face & it looks worse today, obviously. I was so close to having a face picking free day yesterday too. I see how this compulsion is a way to try to regain the illusion of feeling in control. Iím feeling so angry at myself & members of my family of origin right now. I just want to let it all go. Iíll do some yelling in my car on the commute to work & see if that helps expel some of this pent up energy. Iím in a rural area so no one will hear.
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I've been thinking of you, @FloatThruThisand wondering how you're doing. I was having a better time with not tearing my cuticles, but a couple of weeks ago I started again and it's been pretty bad. One night I said, Eh, just stop trying to stop. But...I want to stop. You are so correct about the control thing.

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Default Nov 01, 2022 at 09:45 AM
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Hello *Beth*! Thank you for asking. Iíve been tracking my picking behaviors for the past 2 months now.

September no picking days:
Lips 18
Face 15
Fingers 15

October no picking days:
Lips 23
Face 13
Fingers 13

The last days of October, I stopped caring.
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September no picking days:
Lips 18
Face 15
Fingers 15

October no picking days:
Lips 23
Face 13
Fingers 13
November no picking days
Lips 17
Face 14
Fingers 17

The first week of the month I was just half heartedly trying. The second week, I didnít try at all. Then I realized thanksgiving was coming up, so that was good motivation that carried me through.
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November no picking days
Lips 17
Face 14
Fingers 17
December no picking days
Lips 11
Face 11
Fingers 10

December sucked. I might have had more no picking days, but I shut down about week 3 and I am just now starting to feel okay again. So I might have missed counting a few days.

I picked at my fingernails too, which I havenít done in about six months. I hate it, because it takes about 2 solid weeks of not picking at my fingernails for them to heal. Iím in a customer facing job, so it makes me feel more self conscious.

Oh well! There are worse problems to have, & after today, the holidays are over! Öuntil next yearÖ Iím not a fan, but it took me by surprise a little just how much more I despised them this year.
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I havenít posted here in a while. Iíve resigned myself to the fact that I will never be 100% free of this bad habit, & itís okay, butÖ I tore my nails off down to the quick again yesterday. I really hate when I do that.
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