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I tend to have obsessive thoughts about other women's infidelity. Sometimes I worry that someone I know or love will be cheated on.

The women are usually promiscuous in my thoughts. I do wonder if women sleep with that many men or is it that the thoughts exaggerate real life. The thoughts are exaggerations of real life. The wives often have numerous or multiple affairs. Interestingly enough they are usually five or more men. The men sometimes don't know about them until it is too late or that she dies leaving a rather dark history. The paternity ones and the fictional ones disturb me too because I know they are fictional, the product of one's own imagination. I realize the thoughts in themselves are not real and are harmless, but I have learned to break them down or just "turn the thought around". I have posted up that in a topic on the forum about the method being more effective, 1 or 2 and I give examples. I wonder many things in my thoughts about the wives who do this, why they do it and how many? I realize that in order to deal with the thoughts, I have to pinpoint what causes the anxiety and deal with it and then break it down until I realize that they are based on someone else's imaginations, gossip, lies,etc and we have never heard the other person's side of the story. So that is what I have to go through in a nutshell. Could you explain your thoughts? Maybe we can support each other without having to try to reason or ask for reassurance.

How do you deal with your obsessions? The thoughts are about women who ***** around and not just wiht one or several people, but a lot. Their husbands can end up very bitter and mean as a result. The children are not his, but a result of the wife's promiscuity and he treats the kids badly. Such is a scenario that I have had recently.