[charlied]

Hello I will just get to it. My mother had a complete hysterectomy in 1987, and since then she has gone to multiple doctors and multiple therapists. Over time she has shown signs of mood swings, weight gain, paranoia, depression and she grabbed my wifes arm and was yelling at her when we would not let her see her grandchild. I don't know if she has ever seen a hormone therapist or any doc to regulate her hormones. She is now almost 50 and I don't trust her with my kids. I am lost, since she owns the business my whole family works for that out of self pressurvation they won't back me up when confronting her about my thoughts and concerens. Also she has three siblings that will no longer speak with her just for the same reason. If anyone has some advise that would be great.

[Reina-Rena]

I believe that my grandmother had to go through this as well...I do know that my grandmother has to take 'hormone pills' (I have no idea what the name of them are, I just know that they are for hormones). Is she currently on any medication like this?

[charlied]

Not that i know of. She has taken some in the past, but she always seems to stop taking them because she was feeling better. it almost seems like she thinks that she is getting better and stops seeing the doctor and then blames the old doc for the problem and goes and sees another doctor. I am just at a loss and frustrated with the whole situation.

[Catherine2]

charlied, hi...
Just a thought but these behaviors may not be linked to her hysterectomy.
Do her moods/actions settle down whenever she does take hormones? I'm assuming you mean female hormones...
Do you know when was the last time that she had a complete medical workup?

Perhaps having a face to face but gentle talk with her would help. Tell her about your concerns, that you don't want to keep her from seeing her grandchildren, things in life could be easier for her...
You'll be able to make any decisions based on how she reacts and or what she shares with you.
Doing this is for your benefit, charlied, and to protect your wife and children.

I'm truly sorry that you'll most likely be doing this by yourself, but it will also be for yourself...
Jmo, but if she isn't going to try and help herself there isn't much you can do about it. Setting boundaries is going to be a priority for you, doing so will be hard but necessary.

Honestly? She may not be aware just how bizarre her actions are to all of you. Is she actively running the business? If so, or if she has some control over it, there is a measure of success...leading me to believe there may well be things going on that no one is aware of.
It's serious enough that you are willing to post about it and ask for advice. You'll sift through said advice to find something that is comfortable to you; action-wise or at the very least what you need to do for you.

Business wise you obviously have to tolerate her behavior, your personal life is another matter. Being around a parent/family member that is toxic to you isn't necessary beyond business hours.

My best wishes,
Catherine