This is Annoying.

HawkSR71 · Jun 18, 2009 at 02:25 AM

Its been annoying me for a while and I was curious as to how to stop it.

I don't get any emotions except a few like anger and rage, but I still seem to have the physical sensations that come with other emotions. If I'm not going to have emotions, then I don't want to have the physical sensations that come with them, thats just irritating.

Any Help getting rid of these would be good.

Naturefreak · Jun 18, 2009 at 08:51 AM

Anger and rage are definitely not good in any form.
It's a good thing you want to put a stop to it.
I'm sure someone here can help you .
Good Luck & Take Care

Elysium · Jun 19, 2009 at 12:28 AM

Hey Hawk....

Anger and rage are functional, necessary emotions.

In my past therapy and therapeutic education, I have been taught that anger/rage are often secondary emotions. Happiness, sadness, disgust, fear, guilt/shame, surprise, and interest are known as primary emotions. Primary emotions are typically adaptive, whereas the secondary emotion is typically mal-adaptive. It is also said that the secondary emotion usually trumps the primary.

What tends to happen with people in general, is that a person feels fear, sadness, guilt, and/or surprise and has difficulty coping with the intensity of these emotions, so anger steps in to cover for the other emotions because it is easier to be angry and focus the blame of our anger on something external than it is to focus on and sit with the more difficult internal feelings and emotions. It's kind of an emotional coping mechanism.

It also sounds like you are judging your anger/rage as bad or wrong when really, they are neither. These are healthy emotions. These emotions alone cannot hurt you or anyone else. True, they are not pleasant to sit with, but it is our actions and responses to these emotions that can be mal-adaptive and damaging to others, not the emotions themselves.

It is OKAY to feel angry and to have rage inside. There are very good reasons for these feelings to be there. They are protecting you from the more painful uncomfortable emotions.

It does not seem too strange to me to see how you would experience a physical expression of emotions while only feeling them as anger/rage. Even though you are not internally allowing yourself to feel these other emotions, they are still there and your body still responds to them physically. They are just buried underneath all that anger. Just my opinion from what I've learned.

If you have a T, I would suggest speaking with them about this. If you don't have a T, I would suggest finding one to help you find more adaptive ways to cope. I hope this offers a little bit of understanding.

Keep posting here. We'll be here for you.

Naturefreak · Jun 19, 2009 at 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Elysium3006

Hey Hawk....

Anger and rage are functional, necessary emotions.

In my past therapy and therapeutic education, I have been taught that anger/rage are often secondary emotions. Happiness, sadness, disgust, fear, guilt/shame, surprise, and interest are known as primary emotions. Primary emotions are typically adaptive, whereas the secondary emotion is typically mal-adaptive. It is also said that the secondary emotion usually trumps the primary.

What tends to happen with people in general, is that a person feels fear, sadness, guilt, and/or surprise and has difficulty coping with the intensity of these emotions, so anger steps in to cover for the other emotions because it is easier to be angry and focus the blame of our anger on something external than it is to focus on and sit with the more difficult internal feelings and emotions. It's kind of an emotional coping mechanism.

It also sounds like you are judging your anger/rage as bad or wrong when really, they are neither. These are healthy emotions. These emotions alone cannot hurt you or anyone else. True, they are not pleasant to sit with, but it is our actions and responses to these emotions that can be mal-adaptive and damaging to others, not the emotions themselves.

It is OKAY to feel angry and to have rage inside. There are very good reasons for these feelings to be there. They are protecting you from the more painful uncomfortable emotions.

It does not seem too strange to me to see how you would experience a physical expression of emotions while only feeling them as anger/rage. Even though you are not internally allowing yourself to feel these other emotions, they are still there and your body still responds to them physically. They are just buried underneath all that anger. Just my opinion from what I've learned.

If you have a T, I would suggest speaking with them about this. If you don't have a T, I would suggest finding one to help you find more adaptive ways to cope. I hope this offers a little bit of understanding.

Keep posting here. We'll be here for you.

This helped me also. Thanks

HawkSR71 · Jun 22, 2009 at 03:19 AM

Elysium3006,

Thanks for the reply. I don't feel Anger or rage in place of other emotions I feel anger when I should, I just don't feel other emotions, I only get the physical sensations from other emotions like I said, but because I don't have the effect of emotions on me, then I can ignore them but they are irritating and I want rid of them.

By "T" I'm guessing you mean therapist? No I don't have one, Nor do I really want one.

Thanks for all your replies.

Elysium · Jun 22, 2009 at 08:30 PM

Hi

Hmmmmm

I'm not sure if I understand what you mean exactly. I now get that you feel anger/rage when you should, and that you don't feel your other emotions, however you have the physical responses from these emotions. (I hope I got that right!)

So, are you saying you want to get rid of the physical responses to your emotions because they are bothering you, or are you saying that you want to get rid of your emotions all together?

I could understand wanting to ditch the physical responses, if you weren't experiencing the emotional feelings, but if you got rid of the emotions completely,then you would be a robot.

Anywho....respond back if you like. Otherwise, I hope things start to change for the better for you.

Take care.

HawkSR71 · Jun 23, 2009 at 01:09 AM

No you are right, I would like to get rid of the physical responses, I have few emotions as it is and the physical responses are just irritating, but yes its the physical responses to emotions I don't have that I would like to get rid of.

wierb · Jun 24, 2009 at 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by HawkSR71

Its been annoying me for a while and I was curious as to how to stop it.

I don't get any emotions except a few like anger and rage, but I still seem to have the physical sensations that come with other emotions. If I'm not going to have emotions, then I don't want to have the physical sensations that come with them, thats just irritating.

Any Help getting rid of these would be good.

try praying
get well soon
lots of love
wierb

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Naturefreak Elder Member Since Jun 2009 Location: Nova Scotia Posts: 5,146 15	Jun 18, 2009 at 08:51 AM #2 Anger and rage are definitely not good in any form. It's a good thing you want to put a stop to it. I'm sure someone here can help you . Good Luck & Take Care __________________ Depression is not a weakness ...... it is a sign that you have been strong for too long.
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HawkSR71 Junior Member Member Since Jun 2009 Posts: 9 15	Jun 23, 2009 at 01:09 AM #7 No you are right, I would like to get rid of the physical responses, I have few emotions as it is and the physical responses are just irritating, but yes its the physical responses to emotions I don't have that I would like to get rid of.
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