[confusedteen]

I'm lost,
I don't know what to do anymore. It is so hard for me to even remotely like being at home. I don't feel like I'm happy whenever I'm at home. Like I'm always the one getting yelled at or blamed for something and the one no one gets along with. Whenever I'm at home I always get so mad and worked up that there is always yelling I just can't be around them without yelling. Yeah I know I'm 16 and I'm suppose to hate my parents but am I suppose to hate living in my house this much. I feel like I just need to get away from everyone but I don't know where to run to. I feel like I need to talk to someone before I loose it and do something I will regret later because when I get mad sometimes I just want to punch someone. I feel like I need to find a therapist just to talk to and vent and just a safe place to go and make it through everything going on right now but how do I ask my parents that. Especially when all we really do is fight when we talk.
I feel lost in the world with no where to go but down.
Any advice??
Lots of love
Confusedteen
Morgan

[tarabug922]

Morgan,

I don't have much in the way of advice, other than to try to talk to your parents about your need to see a therapist. Do you have friends that you confide in? They might be able to take some of the burden off just by listening. You can also continue to post here. Although we sometimes don't get many replies people are reading your posts are their thoughts are with you. But who knows, your parents may have a favorable reaction to your need for therapy and suggest family counselling, that may help the situation to.

Just know that you're safe here and you can come and say whatever it is you need to say. We're all listening.

Love and Hugs,
Tara

[sabby]

I sooooooooo remember being where you are now when I was your age. It sure was difficult at times.

I wonder if instead of trying to talk to your parental units and getting upset and yelling, maybe you could write out your thoughts and feelings and give it to them to read when they are in a fairly quiet/good mood? Would that be something worth trying maybe?

If I think of anything else I'll let you know. I do wish you all well and hope you can get some sort of effective communication going soon.

Take good care!

sabby

[Naturefreak]

((confusedteen))

So sorry you are going through this difficult time.
Take good care of yourself

[Rmdctc]

Hi

I know how you feel. I understand how it feels to not be able to get through to your parents on how you feel. You can PM me anytime if you need to talk or are feeling upset. Since you are in high school maybe there is a school therapist that you could go to or a teacher you could talk to? Just an idea. I hope today is a better day for you.

[Shangrala]

Morgan~

Although it seemed like forever ago...(ok, maybe it was, lol), that I went through what you are now, I can still clearly remember the feelings that I was experiencing.

You have already received some great advice.
I will have to second the motion on writing down what you're feeling and present it to your parents at a moment of calmness for all of you.
Writing your feelings down is a win/win for all concerned. It allows you to express yourself clearly and thoroughly without distractions or interruption. It also gives your parents the chance to address each written issue with you.
Communicate with them calmly.
Your parents cannot read minds, (as you know), so be prepared for them to have many questions. Also, understand that they may be confused pertaining to some things you have to say. Allow yourself to answer their questions without feeling interrogated. Refrain from a shouting match. If it should seem as though it will lead into that, then calmly express to them that the talk needs to resume another time when calmness is once again present.
(Perhaps, too, inform them in your letter that this is difficult for you, (approaching them), and that you may express some uneasiness, but request their patience if this does result). So long as there is communication on both sides, it should go rather smoothly.

Your parents love you, and will do what they can to offer you the help that you need. From what you've stated, you aren't getting along very well with them at this time, but that doesn't mean that they won't be willing to assist you once you approach them and request some help.

I struggled greatly with my parents and family, which resulted with getting kicked out at 15. Unfortunately, we didn't have the open line of communication, nor was therapy as easily accepted as a resource for help back then, (the common misconception of seeing a "shrink" meant one was "crazy"...at least in my household it was thought to be that way).

My parent's idea of communication with me, (as an attempt to addresing my "problems"), was to have a family meeting. All of them, (and there were many...resembling more like a jury), sat at one side of the room while I sat alone accross from them, with them all facing me. My mom would have each of them take their turn of expressing their opinion of what I was doing 'wrong'. I wasn't allowed to reply until they were all finished with their say. Needless to say, by the time they were all done, I was pretty much numb to it all, resulting with nothing to say in defense. I just wanted it to be overwith. I felt so defeated.

Today, therapy is an accepted means of self-improvement and healing. And for you to obtain that would be a wonderful thing, whether with your parent's assistance, or your own through your school.

I hate the thought of any youth having to resort to leaving home as a result of miscommunications, (among all the many other reasons). Communication is soooooooooo essential...Whether it be with your own parents, or a counselor or a friend....So long as it is a safe means of release...and you ARE releasing it. I can't express the importance enough of releasing what is troubling you.

I wish you the best. Stay in touch with us and let us know your progress. As it has already been said, you are definately safe with us here to express yourself at anytime.

You're in my thoughts. Good luck~

Shangrala