[silver_queen]

Does anybody know a healthy way of expressing anger which is directed at oneself... The only way I know of is through self injury... but I'm trying to avoid that. i don't think things like punching pillows etc will work because that's still not releasing anger i feel towards me...

any advice?

real hard regimen of exercise does it for me.....a hard walk...it clears the emotions out because you have to concentrate on the physical.....not a leisurely stroll.....a hard walk!!

[SpazKatt]

yes a good work out that wears you out is wonderful!

[Raynaadi]

I usually cry when I'm mad at myself. Crying always helps me immensly. Or I clean or work out.

[Eva1nder]

i wrote an angry letter in a blank book to the person I was angry at ..and I do mean I didn't hold back. It seemed to help somewhat...this was a day or so after. Maybe this would help. I did this at a seminar and it really helped because when I did this exercise ...stuff came out of me that I didn't even know i felt ...it was something...seriously. The pen seemed to have a life of it's own.

[silver_queen]

Yeah a walk probably would be good. Though I feel like I've been walking around most of the day today with going to various locations for computers and so on. and it's been nice sunny weather again. i'm feeling kind of guilty for not being happy. plus there are limited places to go walking in a city on a saturday night on my own in safety.

[Raynaadi]

Oh gosh I forgot about it being night there already!

[vacantangel]

I've been told by a couple of people here that they think I have a lot of anger directed at myself. I don't see that all. Why don't I see it. I don't even know why they think that. I have self-hatred but anger? I'm confused.

[silver_queen]

Well it's not quite night here yet. But I'm meaning to stay here on the forums until the library closes at 9.30pm, which is in two hours or so yet.

[Eva1nder]

sry ... missed the aimed at self part.. lol ..see my mind is half working there

[(JD)]

Sorry you are feeling this way... (((hugs))) perhaps a visit to the CBT list of cognitive distortions would help you release some of that anger at yourself? Are you angry over things you "should" be able to do or change...? Are you sure it isn't part of life? Do you hold unrealistic expectations of accomplishments just short of (and including) perfection? NOT realistic.

Why be angry? If it's for something that you can NOW do something about, then harness that energy and write the letter or... whatever. But reevaluate if ANGER is the right emotion... acceptance of shortcomings of being human... or of other's ....

hope this helps some

i forgot about the time difference also.. could you write it out, now, and then burn it or flush it!!!! i'm pullling for you...xoxo pat

[Fuzzybear]

Write it out or draw it. Then shred it by hand and flush it....... worked for me!

((((((((((((((((Silver)))))))))))))))))))

[silver_queen]

lol eva, no worries

[silver_queen]

thanks for the reply, sky. i had a look at the CBT list. some of them do apply, but for good reason, i suppose. i'm angry at one thing, and it sounds so stupid to be angry about, i know, and i know i keep going on about it - but it's the fact that i spilled water on my laptop yesterday and it hasn't worked since... though i'm going to give it another go tomorrow. but i'm angry at myself for being so clumsy and careless in knocking it over, and that it's entirely my fault that now i don't have any form of entertainment other than books and the radio in my room, and that i might have to buy another laptop, which i won't really be able to afford, even though this one is under 12 months old. other things as well. quite a few reasons to be angry with myself, really...

[silver_queen]

faye and fuzzy, those are good suggestions. i'll try the writing and flushing thing when i get back to my room.

((((((((((((((( Fuzzy ))))))))))))))))) thanks for the hugs.

[(JD)]

Yes, that would make me angry too... but for how long? I mean, you have to come to your senses, sooner is better than later? LOL (sorry, but I know what I'm about to type) You can't cry over spilt milk! Well, you can but it does no good. NO GOOD.

Accept that you goofed, ok? And, it is costing you in many ways... so how do you adjust now... what are your options to fix or work around this goof? (BTW did you turn it upside down to let any liquid drain out ... what about a hair dryer, did you help it dry fast?)

Anyway.... I goofed recently too, with my notebook... and it's missing. Won't go into it now...

But... we have to go on... this is life. No one is perfect, we all goof... it's what we learn from our mistakes that is important. (Let's face it, on the top issues of life and death being without our notebooks is .... WAYYYY up there but not reallly. ; )