[Escape.Artist]

I wasnt sure if this was the right section to post this in, so dont eat me if im wrong D:

When ever im chatting with some one on aim or w.e i always think they dont wanna talk, because most people now a days just say "lol" and "oh". I do it too, but it makes me feel like the person just doesnt want to talk to me anymore, so i just close the conversation.

I expect there are trust issues here. We are warned to not give out personal information and to beware of scams. Perhaps people are reticent because they are uneasy talking to people they do not know. It takes time to cultivate friends. Chit chat likely will not be that meaningful.

[ECHOES]

Maybe there are ways to ask so you will know.
You could ask "Is this a good time to talk?" "Are you busy?"
There are times someone will pop up on IM and just say "Hi". Nothing else. Waits for me to do the talking. Doesn't ask if I am already talking to someone (I am online, probably not just sitting waiting for someone else to wander by.. lol)

I respond directly as well. "Hi, I'm talking to someone else/busy/just heading off, but I hope we can chat soon!"

When I start getting nothing but 'lol' and 'haha' and 'yeah' in reply, I figure it's time to go. It isn't too interesting at that point.

[Escape.Artist]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

I expect there are trust issues here. We are warned to not give out personal information and to beware of scams. Perhaps people are reticent because they are uneasy talking to people they do not know. It takes time to cultivate friends. Chit chat likely will not be that meaningful.

But its not just random people, it's people who are good friends and have had meaningful talks with before.

Originally Posted by ECHOES

Maybe there are ways to ask so you will know.
You could ask "Is this a good time to talk?" "Are you busy?"
There are times someone will pop up on IM and just say "Hi". Nothing else. Waits for me to do the talking. Doesn't ask if I am already talking to someone (I am online, probably not just sitting waiting for someone else to wander by.. lol)

I respond directly as well. "Hi, I'm talking to someone else/busy/just heading off, but I hope we can chat soon!"

When I start getting nothing but 'lol' and 'haha' and 'yeah' in reply, I figure it's time to go. It isn't too interesting at that point.

I do that at times, i say lol way too much, but I don't have anything interesting to say.

Its like, i want to talk to you, and i hope im not bugging you, but i dont know what to talk about.

[coko27]

Originally Posted by Escape.Artist

I wasnt sure if this was the right section to post this in, so dont eat me if im wrong D:

When ever im chatting with some one on aim or w.e i always think they dont wanna talk, because most people now a days just say "lol" and "oh". I do it too, but it makes me feel like the person just doesnt want to talk to me anymore, so i just close the conversation.

Yeah I hate that my niece does that all the time when she talking to me and sometimes I tell her I see that you are not talking much and I say goodbye

[nvr_mnd]

That's why I stopped talking to people online, I always felt like they didn't care what I was saying, or sometimes if it was a decent discussion I wondered if they were judging me or something.

Though it seems to me most people stopped using Aim recently. Maybe it's just people I know.

[Escape.Artist]

Originally Posted by nvr_mnd

That's why I stopped talking to people online, I always felt like they didn't care what I was saying, or sometimes if it was a decent discussion I wondered if they were judging me or something.

Though it seems to me most people stopped using Aim recently. Maybe it's just people I know.

I still use aim, so im me, everythings on my profile incase you use msn or something else. And no, i will never get bored if you talk to me, so talk away.

[nvr_mnd]

Haha, sure why not? My screen name is thrash4lyfe94.

[Stranger2]

Sometimes people don't know what to say so they Just write a short message..Thats there way of acknowlegeing you...