[DfendrOfEmilysHeart]

Is there anyone else out there who trusts less the more you get to know someone ? Is this normal ?

Dunno what else to say. Wanna say more but I can't.

[ZilchHour]

Well in my case, I have defined a certain threshhold beyond which I don't trust people IRL. And this threshhold is usually same for everyone. And people with their acts and attitudes change it, sometimes they fell below this; others win more trust, and I tend to put more trust in them. But number of instances of the former are more than the later. Most people don't seem to value the importance of trust and dependability. But it's their choice...

[dyzan]

Originally Posted by WarmSeptemberSun

Is there anyone else out there who trusts less the more you get to know someone ? Is this normal ?

Dunno what else to say. Wanna say more but I can't.

WSS,
Or you could also read into this complexity, "the more I get to know someone, I can approach my trust issuses with them."

With that said, normal,would probably be what you do or think. Not so much others maybe.

dyzan.
~waves~

[Rhapsody]

Originally Posted by WarmSeptemberSun

Is there anyone else out there who trusts less the more you get to know someone?

I say, YES - this is normal as you are getting the know the person for who they really are and by doing this you are possibly picking up on the "not so good" about them... hence the lack of trust.

I do not think trusting people less the more you get to know them is a universal truth. If it were so no one after a time would trust anyone.

[mule]

i don't trust anyone. The more i get to know someone, the more reasons i find that they are not worth trusting, or the more things about them i find out that scare me.

[amante]

I'm sorry to read that you are having a hard time with trusting people.

[FeelingHopeful]

Trusting is hard for me too, I always struggle with that.

[FranXD]

Believe trust is the last thing i have in my head.... I can Barely trust my friend (friends i knew since kindergarten and i am in the 10th GRD) yup.. i guess (which i am going trough now ) itall has to do with self-esteem when you don't believe in ourself then who are we going to belive in???? think about it ??

[Sabrina]

I would say yes. I am overly cautious by nature and sometimes getting to know someone well reveals things that would cause me not to trust them.

[lonegael]

I would say it depends. I often find things I don't like about people as I know them longer, but it isn't always something that would make them untrustworthy, and i guess they would say the same about etting to know me. There are some problems that i can't deal with and others i can tolerate and that's just how it is. Then there are the people who prove themselves untrustworthy in some issues, and those that are completely untrustworthy, and those I don't deal with anymore. Cut off and goodbye.
Those who are untrustworthy in some contexts include some family members who I see a lot of good in, but they just can't handle certain things. I no longer have them in the "need to know" listings of certain parts of my life, but I maintain contact with them for other reasons.
So, "Normal"? I think it is a natural part of learning to know people. Some will turn out to be good friends, others will not. HUGGSS

[thine_self_untrue]

Some people make me nervous off the bat. Some people do thing/say things/act in a way that causes me to dislike them. There are a few people who I met and I just instantly like and feel willing to trust them.
It depends on what the person reveals and how they act as I get to know them better. Sometimes I am able to trust them more and sometimes I choose to distance myself.

[shezbut]

WarmSeptemberSun,

I'm not real good with identifying trust. Some people make me uncomfortable from the start & I avoid them at all costs from that moment on. Most don't.

I am strangely very friendly with those I don't know at all. When they show a sexual interest, I'm freaked. If they don't show any interest (emotionally), I'm freaked. The more a person knows about me emotionally, the easier I become freaked and back away.