[Renovation]

I hate email. Specifically, I hate it when people don't respond to email in a timely manner. It's happened over and over to me these last few months and I'm growing sick and tired of it. Thank goodness I can come on this site and vent. The email I want to send some of these people is "Why in the f--k haven't you responded to my three emails? How much effort does it take to send a simple one sentence respond? You're a worthless f--k and always have been!"

But I won't ever say this. Instead, I'll come here get it off my chest and move on.

[BashfullOne]

I understand what you're saying! The same thing happens to me all the time. I end up deleting that person from my e-mail address book, then they "eventually" e-mail me back and I add them back into my address book, reply and they do it again....they do not reply for about a month or longer... How rude! At least they could send back a one line e-mail...I mean, hey I have feelings ya know?!! But I'm like you, I'm always really nice back to them and get the same treatment over and over and over again.... Sounds like a song!

I hope you're feeling better after venting... I know I do!!

You can PM me and I'll answer you back right away!! I'm always on PC and love it!! Don't know what I did before - oh, yeah, journaled a whole lot. It does help - the journaling...

Be safe!

[ECHOES]

What is timely to you may not be to someone else.
You're angry about another person's own individual choice about replying to your email to them. They may decide to or may decide not to and they decide when.
Their reply is about them and they make that decision. It isn't something you can control.

[Yoda]

I have problems with Yahoo sending lots of important email to my spam folder. Even with Psychcentral - about half of new posts from subscribed thread go to my mail and the rest go to spam. Dunno why.

[jacq10]

I hear you .....

[BarbGStar]

I often feel the same way.
On the other hand, I've been on the receiving end of someone who sends emails just to tell me, in a not very nice way, that I've been a lousy friend because I never respond to her emails. Not nice at all. I've told her over and over that if the email attacks me, I don't respond. This friend is what I call high maintenance and she's probably the only person I really hesitate to respond to. If it's to let me know in an appropriate way that I've hurt her feelings, I'll respond fairly quickly. Sometimes I need a day to think it over. The key is it needs to be non-combative.

[thine_self_untrue]

I think it's so easy to automatically get pissed off about things that seem huge at the time, but in the long run aren't that significant. Yeah, it's annoying and yes it's rude, but is it helpful to anyone for me to get upset?

What helps me is to always assume the best about another person. If someone hasn't responded to my e-mail in a timely fashion, I think "Maybe they're sick, or thier computer broke, or they're very busy and have a deadline they need to make..." Even if they're really is no good reason, my act of giving them one helps me to put it in perspective.

I would want someone else to assume the best about me, and it helps me not to be so upset at that moment. Usually I can just move on and forget about it until the issue resolves.

[Amanda_1981]

I have low self esteem issues, so I sometimes feel the same way, but I am starting to now look at it from another perspective, and I use my own self as an example. I am a huge procrastinator and I am always putting things off.. I do the exact same thing that makes me paranoid when others do it to me. So I have now started to look at it that way... I know personally, I will often read an email right before I go to bed, so I will think ok, I'll email them back tomorrow... but then tomorrow comes, I get busy.. get distracted and completely forget. I also sometimes want to wait until I've had time to think of what I want to say in the reply (if it's something of an important matter..) because I feel like my advice or opinion would be of more use if I had some time to really think about what I want to say in my reply. That being said, I'm probably the biggest procrastintor one will ever find.. and also probably one with one of the worst memory! I am notorious for always forgetting to do things. So now when I feel upset if someone doesn't reply back to me, I keep reminding myself about my own situation and that I myself do it too and then I start to feel better and think maybe they also are procrastinators or just really busy or simply forgot. Maybe wait a week or two and email them back with a quick message asking if they had received your email (and you could always say something like that you've been having problems with your emails being sent so was just wondering if it had gotten to them if you don't want them to let on that you're upset about it)..

Hope you feel better and know that you're not alone in feeling this way..

[Rhapsody]

While I understand how you are feeling I have also learned that not everyone gets online daily as I do... let alone take the time to check their email - ((( hugs )))

[Yoda]

I have three people on this site that I need to respond to PMs but they are ones that I have to think about and compose so I am slow in responding. I hope they understand I have to think sometimes to make sense.