[VickiesPath]

Some of you who may know me might be wondering where I have disappeared to. There are many answers to that question but one major thing that has occurred in my life, ironically enough, is an issue that cannot be discussed here on PC. I have been having some major issues with my husband who, as many of you know, I love dearly, yet a point of contention has arisen between us that I never in a million years thought would happen with he and I. The church.

Since this is not a subject allowed to be discussed, suffice it to say that we are not seeing eye to eye on more than several issues in this area. And I am afraid the magnitude of this problem is growing day by day. It is beginning to divide us and we are reaching the point of needing professional counseling to resolved some of the issues involved. It has caused me a great deal of distress and the way I tend to obsess on things sometimes I found it impossible to come online to PC and talk about the weather!

I miss all of you terribly and I wrote some of you a private message that indicated that we also have had some adjustments due to hubby retiring and some home remodeling projects going on, which are both true. However, this church issue is becoming a bigger problem as the days go by and we seriously need to address it. I suppose you have figured out that by "church" I mean the practice of religion, when and how.

I hope to be spending more time here again. I miss PC so much!!! And I miss all of you so much!

Hoping to see you all again more often...........

[Trying & Caring]

Take care. You've been such a help to me. Something I learned in DBT is that you cannot change someone else's thoughts, emotions, or behaviors no matter how badly you wish you could. So you need to decide if the differences are too great or dire for you to bear. If not, then you have to do "radical acceptance." All my best to you...

[FooZe]

Originally Posted by VickiesPath

... one major thing that has occurred in my life, ironically enough, is an issue that cannot be discussed here on PC.... The church.

Since this is not a subject allowed to be discussed, suffice it to say that we are not seeing eye to eye on more than several issues in this area. And I am afraid the magnitude of this problem is growing day by day.

It probably wouldn't help you at all anyway, to present your version of how many angels can dance on the point of a pin and have us vote on whether you're right or wrong. I don't see why you can't discuss the communication issues -- who gets upset, who (if anyone) fights dirty, who walks out or whatever, and what that seems to be about.

If someone's trying to be right at someone else's expense, for instance, I figure the general form of the conversation is going to pretty similar whether the content happens to be religion, sports, or paleontology.

[Yoda]

[Sabrina]

It doesn't sound like something that can be resolved easily so I wish you much strength in dealing with this. You are missed here.

Hello, VickiesPath. May you both decide your relationship is more important than your disagreement.

[Naturefreak]

Vickie
Hope you can resolve these issues soon hun....miss you much

[pegasus]

Mmm... just wondering if you could talk about this a little more here without going into the nitty gritty stuff. Remember you are your own person and you can do what you wish and so can your hubby. Neither should be forced into something they don't want to. Sorry if I have the wrong end of the stick, trying to help. Maybe you can discuss this here in general terms and we'll support you.

(((((((( VickiesPath )))))))))

[bebop]

vickie hon feel free to pm me if you would like to talk in detail about it. maybe we can even hook up in a private chatroom if you just want to talk hon. I know how difficult split views are on religion.

[VickiesPath]

Originally Posted by pegasus

Mmm... just wondering if you could talk about this a little more here without going into the nitty gritty stuff. Remember you are your own person and you can do what you wish and so can your hubby. Neither should be forced into something they don't want to. Sorry if I have the wrong end of the stick, trying to help. Maybe you can discuss this here in general terms and we'll support you.

(((((((( VickiesPath )))))))))

Thank you, everyone, for your responses. I am considering what you have said, Peg, and will try to put together an explanation that might pass inspection, yet at the same time convey the finer points and make sense of the nature of what is bothering me. It may take a few days but I truly value everyone's opinion and it will help me to get some input from you all on this one. Later.

[Junerain]

Just wanted to drop in and say, I miss you too

[sabby]

((((((((( Vickie )))))))))))

I understand how difficult it can be. Sometimes, trying to write within the guidelines can be somewhat frustrating as well. You and any member are more than welcome to pm a mod/admin with any posting you would like to make and we'd be happy to help you critique it so it fits within guidelines without taking away from the general thoughts you are wanting to get out. Does that sound like something you can do?

Thinking about you!

sabby

[lynn P.]

((Vickie)) - thanks for giving us an update. I understand having your hubby retire must be an adjustment. Sorry you're having difficulties. You know you can PM me also to talk about this.

[sun_flower]

Take care of yourself.

"Every difference of opinion is not a difference of principle." --Thomas Jefferson: 1st Inaugural, 1801. ME 3:319

"Truth between candid minds can never do harm." --Thomas Jefferson to John Adams, 1791. ME 8:212

[lonegael]

Hi Vickie, haven't been around much myself, but just wanted you to know that I really hope that you guys can come to some kind of peace about this. Retiring must be really hard on both of you.
Huggs and hang in there, dear.