[heidu]

I am going to take a break from the boards for awhile. I don't know how long but I will be back.

There are some things going on and people are hurting and I got in the middle because I wanted to help or make it stop. I find that I did help and I am getting hurt in the process.

Being so far from home and having the people who I really care about and trust be so far away I come here. I care so much for people here and I just can't deal with the fighting, the miscommunication and being mean to eachother. This is my family and friends.

Please listen to what eachother is really saying, apologize, forgive, compromise, agree to disagree, whatever it takes.

I am sorry, I am sitting here bawling and I usually come here to feel better.
Heidu

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin

[darkeyes]

heidu,
Because of 2 people that can't get along, that is not a reason to leave here, it isn't your fault and you said what you needed to say, that's all. So by all means do not make that a reason to leave, 2 people out of hundreds, now thousands here, is no reason to leave. Stay, it is your right to and choice. You have friends here that like you and care about you, just disengage from the one's that have caused you to feel this way and move on Stay here if you want to
Take care,
"darkeyes"

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[Fuzzybear]

Heidu,

I'm sorry you're feeling bad about some things going on and the arguing - I think we all feel that way sometimes - I know I do. Do what is best for you, but I hope you don't stay away for too long ...

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Heidu}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Take care,
Fuzzy

[Peanut61]

(((((((((((((((((((((((HEIDU)))))))))))))))))))))))...

All you can do is try to express your concern and empathy for the parties involved... The rest must lay with them. I have always wanted to try to fix any conflict going on, (throughout my life), and often, I too got hurt in the process.

I still have a tendancy to want to jump in and try to smooth things over, (even tried yesterday, but the subject thread was locked)...

I guess we're supposed to learn how to step back, (which, again, is not easy for me, so I truly do know where you are coming from), and let those more directly involved make choices about how to resolve things, (or not)...

I hope you won't go away, and if you must, I sure hope it isn't for long, because I would really, really really, (X100), miss you!! Most respectfully, and with great affection, Peanut

<font color=blue>HI FROM PEANUT</font color=blue>

[heidu]

I am not asking for replies or comfort. I just wanted people to know where I was going so no one worries.

Thanks though for the kind words and support.

The things I am feeling are better left unsaid. I can't imagine the trouble I'd be in. It was bad enough when I was trying to be nice.
Heidu

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin

[Willow]

((((((((((((((HEIDU))))))))))))))))
I will miss you. Don't stay gone too long.

[LadyDragus]

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I hate to see you go, but when we all need space that is best.
I will think of you daily, and I wll miss your smiley face flower, but If you truly need a break, then I do think you need to do what ever your heart tells you to do

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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[PlanningtoLive]

Heidu, know that you will be sorely missed........but do what is right for you. I have read the posts as well, and stayed out of it - figured it was none of my business and people would get angry with me if I stepped in. You are very well respected here and help out many.

Please don't stay away for too long. Take care.

Mary Alice

[Willow]

I did the same as you Mary Alice. I have a hard time dealing with conflict and try to stay out of it as much as possible.

Heidu... I wish you would reconsider leaving. I will miss you so much

[Rapunzel]

Heidu,

I'll miss you. I respect your decision - it is up to you to decide what it is that you need. If you ever want to talk, my door is always open to you.

<font color=purple>"The real problem of mental life is not why some people become insane, but rather why most avoid insanity." -Erich Fromm</font color=purple>

[Sam]

Dearest Heidu,

(((((HUGS))))) to you my dear sweet friend.

I respect your decision, but please - whatever the final may be, please know that I have come to know and respect you, and have so enjoyed reading your thoughts.

You truely are, a loving and wonderful person - one I am enriched by knowing - if only on this board.

I'll stand by your decision, but please - do whatever that is right for you sweetie.

((((((((((Heidu))))))))))

Your friend Sam (who is hoping your leave will be as brief as a sonic boom)

Anyone can say I love you, but actions speak louder than words.

[kvinneakt]

Heidu, I am sorry to see you step aside, and I completely respect your choice.

I am thinking of doing the same, more or less.

You have been a good companion and the time has come to move on.

Wherever you go, there you are

[heidu]

Ok, so how long could I stay away, really? I missed you guys but a break for a day was what I needed. I never said I was leaving. I wouldn't do that. I care to much for people here and I need you all too.

I am feeling better. Had time to think and work thru some things. Thank you all for letting me know you care. You are all very special people. Like friends and family :O)

Hugs to all,
Heidu

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin

[Willow]

YAYYYYYYYY!!!! Heidu is back... Heidu is back!!!!! YAYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!
((((((((((((((((((HEIDU))))))))))))))))))))))
((((((((((((((((((GROUPHUG))))))))))))))))))))))

Willopw,
Are you the same Willow ?
Lou