[carinacan]

my mom says that i need to get out of the house and make some friends.....finde someone with something incomen with.....ya right.
Why? it's not like i'm going to finde anyone like me around here and anyway i like being by myself more then with a grope. people just don;t make since to me most of the time and i don't like haveing to fake like everone eles so why ? why should i

[Perna]

Most things we do have a lot of habit to them. One can't get good at talking to people and figuring out how to be around them unless one "practices" doing that. Too, the older one gets the harder it is to learn stuff like social skills because we spent so much time in the habit of being by ourself. Not only is it harder to learn what other people our age may have been practicing longer, but there are more situations as an adult where we have to get along with people (school, work, trying to meet someone to marry or bosses and coworkers, store clerks and service workers, etc.).

You don't have to find anyone like you (you're the only you there is) but people who like something you like. It's easier to talk to people about something both know a little about, makes a basis to expand from when getting to know someone and how to get along. Presumably you'll get a job some day that will be something you can do and don't absolutely hate doing and there will be coworkers in the same boat; same with school now, say something to someone sitting near you in a class you don't hate.

[little*rhino]

perna is right... what seems like pointless work right now will be needed later - guaranteed. Someday your life will shift. You'll be on your own and the best thing you can do is try to have some skills to be able to handle what comes your way.

liking being alone is waaaaaaaaaaay better than not having a choice

[El-ahrairah]

I like to be alone too, I know how you feel.
I am very hermit like lol Face to face doesn't do anything for me but cause inner mental break downs.

[Princess_Obsidian]

Greetings,

If you truly want a friend, I have no doubt fate has the perfect one for you. Though, being forced to socialize may only add to any negativity that is already swimming around in your fragile mind. I hope your mother will soon realize this. After all, an ill mind already feels like a victim, being forced to do something from the outside, as well, can make one feel as if he/she is trapped in a world of slavery, where one must do as he/she is told/commanded and not as he/she positively pleases. At least, that is what it once felt like, to me.

If you are truly content with how your social status is, now, then great. Though, if you are yearning for companionship, whether it be romantic or just simple friendship, do not go hunting. Instead, go to your favorite hang-outs and naturally mingle. Be yourself, though, most importantly keep a positive mind-frame and you may be surprised of the results.

Love yourself and others will want to love you , as well....

Stay Positive!

Have a good one.

Hello, carinacan. Only you can answer why you would want to. Are you satisfied with your life?

[beggin for help]

Originally Posted by carinacan

my mom says that i need to get out of the house and make some friends.....finde someone with something incomen with.....ya right.
Why? it's not like i'm going to finde anyone like me around here and anyway i like being by myself more then with a grope. people just don;t make since to me most of the time and i don't like haveing to fake like everone eles so why ? why should i

When I am depressed, I feel just like you. I have no interest in anything or anyone. People tell me I should get around others and get my mind off myself, but I only feel like a sore thumb sticking out. I look sad and they can read it, therefore they avoid me, too. Vicious cycle. I have not helped but at least I can empathize with you. Just comfort yourself until you are feeling better to get out of the house. It's no shame. It will be ok.