[wisewoman]

I am a mother failure. My daughter wants to have nothing to do with me and change her name back to her birth name and my son, spouse and I just had a terrible fight. I feel like I such at this parenting thing and that I really don't understand the whole thing about them growing up and yet still looking for us to provide and clean. In their eyes they are doing their fair share. In my eyes they do nothing. I have to really get a better attitude so I can help my son and his girlfriend feel more welcomed and at ease. As much as I get mad at them for their inconsiderate behavior, they come right back at us with how we don't like how they do things and they did sweep etc. Man it's hard stuff.

On a good note I got my bunny hutches moved today by my friend who brought us hay. They are monster cages. He then scraped the lower driveway so the manure was gone and so that the driveway is hopefully grated better so water doesn't runinto my garage.

babies are happy with their moved cages and so is mommy.

Hard times when weekends are the only times we can get things done.

I hate living with this kind of stress. My son gets angry with my daughter because when one of the dogs has an accident she won't clean it up. She can't, she has ocd. It is pretty complicated.

We have agreed to start on a new note and move on.

[katheryn]

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hope things inprove

[SS8282]

(((((((((((((ww)))))))))))))))) you are NOT a mother failure. Definately NOT. Got that?

You have been working your butt off for everyone,and then some. You have always been there for your kids, and everyone including their three times removed cousins. Ok, maybe I exaggerated, but got my point?

You've always tried to change yourself to suit other people. It's time they try to co-operate and help you out. You may be the 'parent' but heck, you're human too. They're adult, too, so they can behave like an adult. Well, maybe your daughter's not in the 'adult' stage yet, but your son is. Perhaps when they do help around, just grin and bare it., and do a better job, like sweeping again after they did it. This way, they can see that they can do a better job without you verbally expressing how 'poor' a job they really did.

OK, I'm getting off my

Ya know, I really care about you and I don't like it when people don't appreciate you, and you're down on yourself. Aint good for you. Also, I get teed off when I hear how people don't pitch in to help while others work their butt off.

Anyway.... I'm glad you got your driveway cleaned and the 'babies' are happy.
(((((((((((((((ww)))))))))))))))))))) hugs again.

[wisewoman]

Thanks Katheryn, and thanks SS for being angry for me. I think that my T has been pushing me to let go and let the kids deal with the house. I think that is not our family structure. I was thinking today that I want to go back to the mommy who makes meals and makes sure the house is clean. It sure would be easier. Thanks.

[jmo531]

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