I need some answers if you know

My daughter came to stay with me/here three months. She is an adult not a child.
Noticed she is very short tempered now I mean from calm to raging angry.
After the hurricane hit us I asked her to help me with the cleaning up. She wanted to sleep, annoyed she got up and on the way to the kitchen she started talking so nasty f this and f you ect soon yelling it. I went to smack her when she walked by me because the windows were all broken and I didn't want evryone to hear her talking like that.
I missed her but she turned on me with such a rage, took her hand shoved it into mychest and pushed me into the wall. Grabbed my hands and pinned me back screaming at me. I kept asking her to calm down and get a grip, it made her worse. She dug her nails into my arms and I just couldn't get loose from her.
It was only maybe 30 seconds when she moved her head close to my hand to wipe her head off I guess and I grabbed her hair. She screamed don't touch my hair and I said fine, let go of my arms and I will let go of your hair. She did and went to pack a bag to leave.
I thought she was doing drugs of somekind then because that isn't her.
After she left I found a piece of paper she dropped on the floor, inside was a receipt where she had taken money from me which she wasn't supposed to touch. And a one page letter from her friend who was telling her to get her life together and be who she used to be.

I am sick over this but I was there many years ago with her and I can't believe all this . The look of hate in her eyes when she was yelling at me and screaming was hate I mean hate.
I think the only reason i didn't fall apart was because I am on the paxil for anxiety attacks. But of course I did fall apart after she left.
Stealing the money from me was a killer because I have been out of work. Walking out on me and leaving me just did me in.
I never saw a temper in her like lately so fast out of nothing just talking on the phone she will slam it down and get angry with whom ever she talks to. Some how she remains calm at work and people think she is wonderful.
Is this drugs or could this be bipolar. I just don't know what to think, she is in her 30's and just moved down here. Also I noticed she drinks quite a bit sneaky so I don't catch her but I see the bottles.
I don't know anymore I am just still blown away by all of this and haven't heard from her since she left. But in a way I am afraid to see her again now. And she will have to come get her things if i have to move which I will in time. God I just want to take an easy way out here.
upset mom /Dusty

(((Dusty)))) I am so sorry this happened to you. I can relate. I myself would suspect drugs or either something really getting to her. I know I can't talk with my own daughter about stuff that is bothering her without her getting angry but I know she isn't on drugs. Hers is stuff that bothers her. Maybe try to get one of her friends to talk to her for you. You are in my thoughts

Dusty, I don't know if it's drugs/drinking, stress from the hurricane or if it's something of a psychological disorder but she needs help, in any case.
I would never even THINK of grabbing my mother like that. Never.
I don't know what to tell you to do. She's old enough to do as she pleases.
You could tuck a note into her belongings telling her that you love her and hope she seeks the help she needs in a loving, supportive way. Tell her that you're there to listen if she needs to confide in someone.
Good luck with this.

Dear Dusty, sounds like a bunch of stuff is going on with her. Drinking would just aggravate any other stuff and freeup the violence. I agree with the previous posts, she needs help.
The only time anybody could approach her is when she's sober. Can't imagine if she would listen to you or not. The main thing now is for you to take care of yourself. Do you have a friend you could call on an immediate response basis in case she comes back to your place (angry)? I would like somebody there with me, myself, nomatter what condition she was in... There is no excuse for violence. Take precautions now, plan ahead while it's not the heat of the moment.

It might help to work with a councelor yourself to get a hold of your end of the situation. Is there a domestic violence hotline in your area? They would be versed in services available in your neck of the woods. Best to you.

It sounds like your daughter has a lot on her plate and the drinking is only making her personality worse. I know from experience with alcoholics that the alcohol can make an angry person into a person full of rage and make them more aggressive than they already are. I don't know about the drugs, but it sounds to me like she needs serious help. There are so many things that could be contributing to this, some things that may not even be known to you.

I'm really sorry that you have to go through this with her because it can really bring a parent down and cause all sorts of fear and anxiety. Hang in there. We are all here for you.

Sounds to me like you both have issues...you said YOU went to SMACK her...from what I know violence begets violence..I am sorry she freaked out and yes she may be on drugs or drinking ..I am VERY sorry she did this to you and some of it may have been learn behavior...add drugs or booze and wham it gets worse....Family therapy could be of help....seems with all you have both had to deal with PTSD would not be out of the question..Best of luck and again sorry

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Why would you want to do this if she was already angry?? If you had left the room, she wouldn't have had any reason to attack you or even yell. Maybe she's already used to resorting to violence to solve her problems.

I am so sorry this happened. I am sure your house being damaged and all the other effects of the hurricane has not helped anyone with their mental well being.

It does seem that possibly you both have some issues with anger. I also understand that it is devastating to be afraid of your daughter. I don't know what may be causing her behavior but it may be beneficial if both of you saw a t to help work through what you are going through. Good luck and I hope things work out well.