[madisgram]

I practiced the very thing this article suggests. i thought i was postponing gratifiication by working myself to the bone. this article would have been beneficial to me to live in the moment and find my own happiness right than and there.

For you, which comes first: happiness or success?
My guess is that you have already answered that question several times today. You answer it every time your brain says, "I'll be happy when I find a job." "I'll be happy when I get a promotion." "I'll be happy when my dissertation is finished."
The formula is clear: Work harder, then you'll be successful, then you'll be happier. When I asked some of my Harvard students, their answer was easy: "I'm working my butt off now so I can be happy when ... [fill in the blank with a six figure banking job, make a scientific breakthrough, get into medical school, etc.]."
But here's what these brilliant students often forget: Getting into Harvard was supposed to make them happy. How many of them in high school thought they'd be happy once they got in? Why didn't the success then happiness formula work?..http://www.huffingtonpost.com/shawn-achor/happiness-leads-to-

success_b_940611.html#s343435&title=Write_Down_What

Thanks, madisgram. The deception of believing the next achievement would bring the happiness I sought was a hard lesson I had to learn.

[notablackbarbie]

Why didn't the sucess then happiness formula
work?

Because its never enough. With all of the expectations and judgement and standards, one cant just be happy as is. Its not just greed as everyone thinks...it can also be starting at a deficit, then forever trying to catch up...but its never enough...One is never enough... or am still just nothing really...