[Burning Aroma]

OK, this is going to sound odd but here it goes. I've had problems saying 'thank you' to others in person for as long as I can remember. I'm really not sure why. I'm perfectly fine with thanking others in letters, but in person, I just can't get myself to do it. I don't know, it just feels [and sounds] rather... awkward to me.

Anyway, the thing I've been meaning to ask is do you have any idea what might be causing this? ... And does anyone else experience this same issue?

Thank you for reading this. (See? I can do it just fine as long as it's not in person.)

[Daonnachd]

Originally Posted by Burning Aroma

Anyway, the thing I've been meaning to ask is do you have any idea what might be causing this? ... And does anyone else experience this same issue?

Thank you for reading this. (See? I can do it just fine as long as it's not in person.)

I experience that. (1) I don't like feeling beholden to anyone and saying thanks means they've done something for me and I should do something for them. Now, I enjoy serving others but without any sense of reciprocity. (2) I don't know if a thanks might make the other feel awkward or pressured by others for a similar favor.

[which_way_is_up]

Wow, vertigo, you just described me to a T.

[Open Eyes]

Maybe someone truely did not do something for "YOU" that really deserved a personal thank you.

Also listen to yourself as you go through the day. How many times to you say "Oh, I am sorry" even when that sentence is not truely warrented. It is a sentence that many women say and often add "excuse me" in a way that suggests they are intruding just by presense alone.

Can it mean that somewhere down deep you may feel underserving? It is a good self check and worth investigating on a purely personal level. And how often do you needlessly disarm yourself without realizing it? When you can say Thank You in person you are stating your personal presence and your feeling of self worthiness in that self presence by that personal presentation. By thanking someone without being present you may feel that you can only give that other person a sense of self worthiness an not yourself.

It was a good question to ask and truely think about what the answer may mean.

Though we do know there is such a thing called body language that can give a real indication about someones personal feelings of Joy, guilt, denial, shame, appreciation, deceit, and so on. There are also small simple statements that are made to reveal our own sense of self worth.

Open Eyes

[Burning Aroma]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

Maybe someone truely did not do something for "YOU" that really deserved a personal thank you.

Also listen to yourself as you go through the day. How many times to you say "Oh, I am sorry" even when that sentence is not truely warrented. It is a sentence that many women say and often add "excuse me" in a way that suggests they are intruding just by presense alone.

Can it mean that somewhere down deep you may feel underserving? It is a good self check and worth investigating on a purely personal level. And how often do you needlessly disarm yourself without realizing it? When you can say Thank You in person you are stating your personal presence and your feeling of self worthiness in that self presence by that personal presentation. By thanking someone without being present you may feel that you can only give that other person a sense of self worthiness an not yourself.

It was a good question to ask and truely think about what the answer may mean.

Though we do know there is such a thing called body language that can give a real indication about someones personal feelings of Joy, guilt, denial, shame, appreciation, deceit, and so on. There are also small simple statements that are made to reveal our own sense of self worth.

Open Eyes

Wow... I never thought about it in that perspective. It seems that this matter is a lot more profound than I first thought it was.

I'll be sure to give it some deep thought. Thanks, Open Eyes.