[tlandelclark]

I am struggling very hard with something and need some help. I am so lonely...I had a man show me a little bit of attention and affection this weekend...someone I just met and now I can't stop thinking about him. I want to call him but I don't have his number...and that is probably a good thing...I recognize that I have formed and unhealthy attachment to this man and it really didn't matter who it was...it could have been anyone...and I am sure I would be feeling the same way. I can't stop thinking about him...I keep imaging what our life together would be like...I keep looking at his facebook page...looked at how much it would cost for plane tickets to go see him...thankfully he doesn't know any of this because I am sure it would be very frightening. I have so far been able to control these feelings and I have only sent him one email...but it is getting harder and harder to control...I am so desparate to have someone love me...care about me...touch me...

has anyone ever had these feelings before? how do i get through this? I can see what is happening but seem to be helpless to stop it?

[SophiaG]

Usually relationships start out slowly and build. You realize this on a rational level, yet your emotions are saying something else. If you were helpless you would've given into your urges already.

Hello, tlandelclark. I can relate. Do what you know is best for you.

Be well.