[Mindinpieces]

I will just say I don’t mean this thread in a way to start an argument or cause confrontation between people, I guess this could be seen this way by some people or it could end up going down that route as a thread. However I would like to ask this and if needed, mods, delete this if it was not ok for me to ask to begin with.

I would like to know, if you do have an opinion of, how you perceive me from my posts. Now I don’t want people to be kind or give a sweeten reply as you think that’s what I may be looking for or need at the moment, it’s not. So please even if you think it may be harsh to say what you really think be honest to me about what conclusions you have drawn about me from my coming here time to time.

Like I said I do not want to use this as cause of confrontation, I would be happy to have any reply. Otherwise how will I know, unless someone points out a few things to me about how I am coming across to others. I honestly would like to know how others perceive me and it would be interesting to see what you think from just going by my interactions, posting here.

I just need to know because I am starting to think that maybe I have got stuck in my mind again and I am not really viewing myself and behaviour as it is in reality. I know a lot of people say I needed to change my attitude towards life and something’s. So maybe I am just my biggest problem. However at the moment I don’t really have anything to go by whether I actually needed to start to change my behaviour or attitude. Or whether maybe it’s not so much of how I am interact with others.

Again this is not about or anything to do with other members here on pc. But actually just about me personally asking for your opinions of how you view me and the way in which I construct myself while I am here. Thank you for reading.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Mindinpieces

I will just say I don’t mean this thread in a way to start an argument or cause confrontation between people, I guess this could be seen this way by some people or it could end up going down that route as a thread. However I would like to ask this and if needed, mods, delete this if it was not ok for me to ask to begin with.

I would like to know, if you do have an opinion of, how you perceive me from my posts. Now I don’t want people to be kind or give a sweeten reply as you think that’s what I may be looking for or need at the moment, it’s not. So please even if you think it may be harsh to say what you really think be honest to me about what conclusions you have drawn about me from my coming here time to time.

Like I said I do not want to use this as cause of confrontation, I would be happy to have any reply. Otherwise how will I know, unless someone points out a few things to me about how I am coming across to others. I honestly would like to know how others perceive me and it would be interesting to see what you think from just going by my interactions, posting here.

I just need to know because I am starting to think that maybe I have got stuck in my mind again and I am not really viewing myself and behaviour as it is in reality. I know a lot of people say I needed to change my attitude towards life and something’s. So maybe I am just my biggest problem. However at the moment I don’t really have anything to go by whether I actually needed to start to change my behaviour or attitude. Or whether maybe it’s not so much of how I am interact with others.

Again this is not about or anything to do with other members here on pc. But actually just about me personally asking for your opinions of how you view me and the way in which I construct myself while I am here. Thank you for reading.

I see one problem with asking us to tell you what we think of you...

these forum boards have a rule... ***All posts must be supportive***

what that means is we cannot give you negative feedback on these forum boards..

you will get lots and lots of posts saying things like how you are a great addition to the membership here but not any negative posts from members that dont think your posts are good.

from my understanding we are supposed to not post in threads we dont like, or that trigger us, cause us to be anxious what ever.. this site also has an ignore post and members list with in each members profile so that we can also fix it so that we dont see any posts that trigger us to feel negative reactions from someones post.

therefore telling us not to be kind to you is not going to get members here to be mean and post negatively to you.. any postings that are not supportive to you will be removed by the moderators.

that doesnt mean you cant find out how others feel about how you post, and make sure you are posting correctly..

you can contact any one by private message and ask them if they have a problem with your post.

you can also contact the moderators, tell them you are worried about how you are posting and for your own comfort in making sure you are posting appropriately you would like to be moderated for a while. the moderators will then read all your posts before they go onto the forum boards. if theres a problem with any of them they will send the post back to you with suggestions of how to fix them so that they are appropriate for these support boards.

[sabby]

(((((( Mindinpieces ))))))

I certainly can understand why you want and need some feedback. The thing is, like amandalouise said, we are a "support" site and in that vein we should be positively supporting each other.

There are as many reasons as the day is long as to why someone would post to you on the forums or not post to you. The worst thing we can do is "assume" that someone doesn't like us or doesn't think we don't deserve support.

Posting a thread like this can really set us up for some difficult issues. It can also hurt other members as well, or make them angry if they don't agree with something another member has said. If that happens, posting can become unsupportive and against our Community Guidelines. We certainly don't want that to happen to you or the other members.

If you are looking for thoughts from a particular member, you can always pm that member and ask them what their thoughts are. Remember, you are a relatively new member to PC. It takes time to find your nitch in the community. It takes time for members to read your posts, learn about you and what issues you are dealing with and to trust as well. Please be patient with yourself and this process.

So, because of the chances of this thread ending up more painful than helpful to you and other members, it will now be closed. If you have any questions or concerns, please let someone on the Community Support Team know and we'll help you as best we can.

With Care,

sabby