For some reason I keep making comments and asking questions which risk offending people, including people on Psych Central.

I don't know why I do it, but my best guess is that I am seeking attention, or it's because I am stuck for a conversational topic, or because I need a quick thrill and prefer that to a long, sensible conversation. Or for shock value, the same reason I picked the name "Illegal Toilet".

I know I can control it because I am not this way with people in real life or even on facebook where my name and face are visible.

I would like to apologise for offending you, if I have offended you.

I will try and stop.

Regards,

Toilet.

[lynn P.]

Since I'm a straight forward person, I admit the walking my spider was confusing because I rely on icons to know whether a thread is serious. Since some members here suffer delusions I was worred the thread was about that and didn't know it was a joke or okay to laugh. Anyway I'm over that now. At least you're admiting your faults and that's a step in the right direction. Here's a tip - if a thread is meant to be funny, just use this icon .
Lately you're being honest and opening up with sharing about yourself. If you want attention, its fine to say you need it. Funny thing is, those kind of threads get less responses than the odd threads lol. Just like on youtube I'm noticing the weird videos get more views and the talented ones who look good get less views.

Thanks lynn.

I'm mostly referring to comments I make to other people and questions that I ask, particularly in chat, but also in the forums where people have been offended.

For example "InTheShadows" was having some problems and had herself institutionalised and I wrote that she was "living the dream" and told her to "have a nice time". People were offended by that and I think ITS was as well.

I don't have much of an excuse but I will try and change my behaviour.

[Open Eyes]

(((IT))),

I agree with Lynn, that taking time to look at our own behaviors and making a decision to change and grow is always good for us. I do that myself, I review my posts and how I react to others, see if I was triggered and try to see where that comes from. I have learned a lot over the past year tbh.

I think that you have made a lot of improvements IT and you will get a lot of support for that. That is the goal here, if we can't do that then we don't really grow. It isn't about what we do wrong as much as recognizing it and making efforts to "improve" ourselves. Really, the only one that can do that is "you".

I see your trying, I think it is good.

(((Hugs)))
Open Eyes

[lynn P.]

Its good you're recognizing this and making the effort to try better next time. Humor and being honest online is difficult to do, especially on a mental illness site. Its a fine dance so to speak in recognizing when humor's appropriate. I've read some good advice from you though and I think you're improving how you interact here. At 1st I didn't know how to communicate with you, but we can now - right...so that's a step forward. Keep trying and I hope your life improves soon.

[patches4.0]

Awsome thread IT, I really like you and think you are funny. I oly got teste this morning because i thought you were hurting someones feelings.

James (Patches)

[CastlesInTheAir]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

For some reason I keep making comments and asking questions which risk offending people, including people on Psych Central.

I don't know why I do it, but my best guess is that I am seeking attention, or it's because I am stuck for a conversational topic, or because I need a quick thrill and prefer that to a long, sensible conversation. Or for shock value, the same reason I picked the name "Illegal Toilet".

I know I can control it because I am not this way with people in real life or even on facebook where my name and face are visible.

I would like to apologise for offending you, if I have offended you.

I will try and stop.

Regards,

Toilet.

I have never felt offended in chat in by you, maybe a little uncomfortable but not offended.

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Thanks lynn.

I'm mostly referring to comments I make to other people and questions that I ask, particularly in chat, but also in the forums where people have been offended.

For example "InTheShadows" was having some problems and had herself institutionalised and I wrote that she was "living the dream" and told her to "have a nice time". People were offended by that and I think ITS was as well.

I don't have much of an excuse but I will try and change my behaviour.

I translated your comment to shadows as meaning she found somewhere that gave her a decent amount of help and you saw that as a dream. Not sure if that is what you meant or you were actually trying to be funny to be light hearted.

Anyway I don't think you are out to hurt or offend anyone, I think maybe you just don't express yourself in the best way possible, meaning it sounded good in your head and you thought the context would be understood but when it came out of your head it didn't translate the way it was supposed to.

although you did ask me one question that I couldn't see a good reason for you asking it.......but bordem can make us do and say some off the wall things sometimes........

anyway

hugs,
tricia

[jelly-bean]

We all have problems expressing ourselves from time to time. I think that you recognizing the fact that you may be offending others is a wonderful step forward and to publicly make the commitment to try to change is even better! Good Luck with it and I know you will be successful.

Im glad you are taking steps to improve this IT - i would never say ive been offended by what you've said to me in chat - more uncomfortable if anything but i don't believe you to be a bad person. If theres any way in which i can help please don't hesistate to ask.

[Data]

You are very annoying sometimes but you are funny sometimes also and I know there is a good person inside there. Perhaps the way forward is forward is to get to know yourself a bit better and to accept yourself. If you need attention, its ok to ask for it - you don't need to be a clown.

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

For some reason I keep making comments and asking questions which risk offending people, including people on Psych Central.

I don't know why I do it, but my best guess is that I am seeking attention, or it's because I am stuck for a conversational topic, or because I need a quick thrill and prefer that to a long, sensible conversation. Or for shock value, the same reason I picked the name "Illegal Toilet".

I know I can control it because I am not this way with people in real life or even on facebook where my name and face are visible.

I would like to apologise for offending you, if I have offended you.

I will try and stop.

Regards,

Toilet.

this is interesting and also refreshing IT..

I have felt like writing something similar before and clumsily stumbled upon my very own paradox. i want to admit I need attention but in doing so I'm gonna get it too and I really cannot handle it!

I want to run and scream in the world of apologies and could spend my entire life in there....screaming at myself for being so damn needy.

I want to share...but it's too much...

I want to care and ...thats even more too much

so do them both anyway.

as much as I resist I discover that most people here 'virtually' all of them do not want to cause hurt...

and this is where your personally perceived insanity is only brilliant

and it's probably important for us to be sorry cos then we get forgiven too and thats equally personal and important...

but I for one don't need you to be sorry for anything....
DM

you aint alone...

last week I wrote what was basically a self indulgent accusation that everybody was just stupid compared to me.
clearly the reverse is more accurate when something like that happens....

but what is inaccurate is that the need for expression has arrived from a 'bad' place!

mental desertion...subsequent loneliness and accidental charisma get tossed around sometimes and anyone in the mood might just feel in excess!

no matter how many people say "it's ok IT"....and no matter how many say .."it's not!"

gotta' be able to say "it's ok"...to yourself

sometimes gotta give ya'self attention

[lizardlady]

no matter how many people say "it's ok IT"....and no matter how many say .."it's not!"

gotta' be able to say "it's ok"...to yourself

sometimes gotta give ya'self attention

Wow dubblemonkey! Awesome comment!

LOL... if I stopped coming here because I offended someone...well that's not gonna happen
People are too easily offended. Don't sweat it.

((((IT)))) imo, personal growth is a good thing. As is connecting with others ... I think that is why we are all here

You have a good heart.

Rose

IT, I also have that problem. I think it is a problem with impulse control. but it is MY problem and I am trying to control it. It is wonderful that you are able to apologize. Sometimes that is the hardest thing to do, even when you know that you have messed up. I am going to learn from you, a will others like us. Thanks for your honesty.