yeah sometimes i have to deal with people who just seem to love to tell otehrs about things. i wonder why they would do that. when you have a private conversation with them you expect them to not blurt it out. turns out they just do.

[Travelinglady]

Some people just enjoy gossiping and getting the reactions, attention, etc. What we have to learn over time is which people to trust to keep their yaps shut and which people leak like a sieve when told information. A good way to tell is if they gossip about others, especially prefaced with words like, "I shouldn't tell you this......," "I told ( ) I wouldn't repeat this, but......" etc.

I agree that true friends wouldn't tell. The exception I might make to that is if I fear that not telling would be possibly terrible for the person. I don't know---like if a friend told me she was seriously thinking of ending it all.

no i meant on this forum.

[AAAAA]

I am terrible at keeping secrets. I don't mean to be. When things slip out of my mouth that I do not intend, I feel horrible. I don't go running to the next person and say "Hey, guess what Jane just told me" but if you tell me something I cannot guarantee that it will not come out. So when friends or co-workers ask "can you keep a secret?" I tell them: "No I cannot, do not tell me anything that you do not want someone else to know." Do not tell me what you got your wife for Christmas, do not tell me that there is a surprise birthday party. I let the cat out of the bag every time.

This is not something that I do maliciously. I'm sorry that someone has let you down.

[Travelinglady]

Me, too. This forum is generally a place where people feel comfortable sharing most everything. Did you tell the friends you didn't want what you wrote shared with other people?

[Leed]

I think it's REALLY ROTTEN when a "friend" thinks it's okay to tell something that you told them in confidence. That's really a terrible thing to do. To break a confidence is the height of betrayal. People who do that are really shallow and care only about themselves.

Be very careful who you tell about things you don't want to get "out." If you haven't known them for a LONG TIME, don't tell.

I figure my life is an open book, and I don't particularly care what gets out, but I know others DO have things they don't want told. I STILL am careful about what I tell about my family members. They may not want their stories to go out to the public, so I'm careful about that.

It's hard to know who you can trust, so just be careful. The ONLY person I could trust with everything died recently -- I'd known her since I was 4 yrs old. That means I'd known her for almost 60 yrs!!! She knew everything about me and I about her. I miss her terribly.

God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[LovelaceF]

I had to stop being friends with someone at work for this reason. She told our boss about something we'd done over the weekend (martinis with friends). Even though it was nothing bad, I just don't want my boss hearing about my private life. Now I feel I can't trust her to keep anything private so I no longer talk to her on any personal basis.

[avlady]

I was always the one people would go to to tell me about something they didn't want to have advertised all over the place. I don't tell anyone anything someone else has told me, and the fact is the stuff they tell me i don't remember after awhile as I kept it secret and just forget it anyway!

[BeeKeeper]

Originally Posted by AAAAA

I am terrible at keeping secrets. I don't mean to be. When things slip out of my mouth that I do not intend, I feel horrible. I don't go running to the next person and say "Hey, guess what Jane just told me" but if you tell me something I cannot guarantee that it will not come out. So when friends or co-workers ask "can you keep a secret?" I tell them: "No I cannot, do not tell me anything that you do not want someone else to know." Do not tell me what you got your wife for Christmas, do not tell me that there is a surprise birthday party. I let the cat out of the bag every time.

This is not something that I do maliciously. I'm sorry that someone has let you down.

This. I'm the worst secret keeper ever and it's always an accident but I feel terrible. I tell people not to tell me secrets, too.

Also, sorry somebody betrayed your confidence That sucks.