[alf0156]

I have not been here in 2 years, my old screan name is probibly gone. I have been dignosed as having Dysthymia and Major depressive disorder. i have been heavly medicated, and it is still not helping. my ex tells me every day how much of a looser i am and it is not helping. but if i stop contact with her i will not get to see my son.

[SeptemberMorn]

Don't listen to her when she rags on you, Alf! She sounds like she's not very understanding at all!

What kind of contact do you have to have with her in order to see your son? I would think it's only to tell her when you'll be picking up and dropping off your son. Yes?

[alf0156]

i don't have a vehical so she has to bring him to me and in her eyes that makes me an unfit parent. she uses him as levrage to get me do do things she wants me to do for her or pulls a guilt trip on how i never help with him. and because i don't know my probluns i am not grown up enough to take care of my son. i realy think she needs different medica fir her bipoler

[kimmydawn]

Alf,

Can you talk with a therapist, social worker with the county, or anyone who can set up a visitation without your seeing her (i.e. a friend, social worker, etc.) brings your child to you for visitation, then drops the child back off to mother?

KD

[hillbunnyb]

oooow KD good one. Cut her out of the circle. Third party neutrality. hope you work it out ))))))) )alf((((((

[alf0156]

she won't alow it, and unfornitly there is nothing setup in the corts because i don't have money to do that

[kimmydawn]

If there's a will, there's a way, alf...

Are you seeing a therapist? Can you dicuss with them setting up a meeting with a social worker to work something out on your behalf with a court order...not everything takes a lawyer with the courts.

For instance a person can file petitions/motions (some of them) on their own in the family/common pleas courts. You might very well be able to make this request on your own.

First off, do you have a therapist you're working with?

Can you PM me the county/state in which you live? I could go to their website possibly to view the motions/petitions a person can file on their own....

kd

[desirae]

Sorry to hear that hun. I recommend taking charge of the situation with your ex, and going to court and having a partial custody or visitation rights, so that she's unable to hold your child over you like a pawn piece in a game. I'm sorry you feel so low as well.