[The Fox & the Hound]

So, I noticed one of my friends has not been eating much, & exercises more. More then usual. Both of which are not her, she adores food.

She has had many excuses, For awhile she told me, she was not hungry, everyday at lunch. She dropped many pounds in about a week & a half.

Progressively it is getting worse. She wants to stop eating a few meals, eat less, & exercise heavily. She is angry she doesn't have enough time to exercise. She has told me she feels fat. That she feels guilty when she eats food, not all food, but a lot if it.

I have tried talking to her about it.She usually gets really angry, or ignores me.

She isn't overweight,she is the normal weight for her age,but she wants to be skinner.

Foxy - I think it is nice that you are concerned.....

but I am more worried about YOUR safety

[The Fox & the Hound]

Originally Posted by Useless Me

Foxy - I think it is nice that you are concerned.....

but I am more worried about YOUR safety

Why do you say that?
Way more worried about her, then me.

[The Fox & the Hound]

Am I overreacting?

Hard to say if you are overreacting.

You could simply notify your guidance councilor that you are concerned and let them make the decision.

[Roblovescats]

Have you told her point blank that you are concerned she has developed an eating disorder? Sometimes it takes being very blunt and tell people in no uncertain terms what it appears to be. Good for you that you care enough to try to do something. If it's nothing it's nothing to get mad at you over... Just show you care. If she gets mad because you care... Well then you are probably very much onto something. Do her parents know?

Sent from the dark side of the moon

[yumi]

I would be worried about her as well. I was bulemic for many years , then began to switch into anorexic behavior as well. Luckily I stopped all of that on my own, I'm not sure how, but I did. But fast forward to years later and after two devastating divorces, I went the opposite way and began overeating. Ugh. I would talk with her about your concerns and reach out to her. I really hope she will be OK. I think she needs at least a friend to talk to, but perhaps a therapist as well if she has the insurance to cover it. Bottom line is, it needs to be dealt with sooner rather than later, before it gets to be more and more of a problem in her life. She is very lucky to have such a concerned friend in you. I hope everything gets better for her.

[The Fox & the Hound]

Me & my family are going to a water park,& I could bring someone. I asked my friend & she said no. Because she was too fat,& didn't look good. She isn't fat at all.

Has anyone else noticed her change in eating habits? When I was at school my best friend developed anorexia and it was terrifying. We thought she was gonna die it got so bad. You really need to let a teacher know or your parents or her parents or someone. It is a very serious illness if left untreated. Please talk to someone about it for her sake as well as yours.

[Open Eyes]

Well, first of all what your friend is doing to trim herself up isn't the smart way to do it. Your friend needs to understand that by starving herself and "not" eating she is going to train her body to want to store whatever she eventually does eat because her body will think it needs to do that to survive.

It sounds like your friend is in need of finding a way to feel "control" and she is turning to doing that with her body. Well, there really is nothing wrong with that, however, she needs to do it right and she will be rewarded and will actually feel better too. Your friend needs to understand that when someone begins to starve themselves, the brain begins to think in skewed ways, our brains need nutrition too, and your friend doesn't want to go that route.

There are people that are body trainers and they help both men and women learn to eat right and also do different exercises to "shape" their bodies. My daughter has a couple of friends that do this and one of them is a model now. You need to do some research on this and share it with your friend not to put her on the defensive, but more to notice she is trying to do something that can give her a change, but she needs to do it right so she ends up with the results she is looking for and gain a sense of control at the same time.

A person can learn "body control" in positive ways, healthy ways, that feed the brain and body with an end result of feeling good and "positive". Starving/fasting is not how to do it, and I think your friend just isn't getting that. Hey, if she is going to put forth the effort, she might as well do it right and get actual good results.

OE