[Hellion]

Ok so now for at least 5 days I have been really wanting just like a day, or most of one to myself...but I have been essentially stuck hanging out with my brother and his friend non-stop for that since they have both been at my house essentially that entire time. Now don't get me wrong I love my brother and his friend is pretty cool....but good god just feels like they are always around wanting me to join in hanging out with them. Then any time I do finally get a bit of time alone at the house my mom, her boyfriend, and my youngest brother end up just being back from somewhere or aren't planning to go anywhere for like 3 days, so then of course noise in the house....my mom and her boyfriend pressuring me to go do things with them I don't really want to and then telling me how I never go out and do 'anything' even though I actually do just usually what they end up going out to do does not intrest me.

So yeah just a day alone would be lovely....I feel like kind of a jerk feeling like that but I can't really seem to help it, I mean its making me rather irritable that there are always people around.....I just want to go away or have them go away and leave me alone for a day of rest or to recharge or whatever.

Does anyone else ever feel like that?

[gayleggg]

I understand. I've been there, when I was just ready to scream go away and leave me alone, but I'm usually to nice to really do it. Even somedays it's too much for me to even have my husband around. Then I just retreat to my bedroom. Thankfully he knows I need my space sometimes.

So I feel for you and hope you don't have to deal with them around too much longer.

[Bleeding_heart]

Yes Hellion, I feel like you do, most days. Each of us has different circumstances that necessitates alone time. It is overwhelming and occasionally unbearable, not to have that option. Family members who have the opposite need can certainly create distress for themselves as well as us, when they deny us much needed solitude.

Yep, yep. You sound like a classic introvert. And yes, I've felt the same way. In fact, I feel that way right now. The only thing is, is that not only can I never get some peace and quiet to myself, I can't even sleep without there being noise...

Maybe they'll all decide to go out somewhere soon enough and you can have the house all to yourself. And don't be afraid to say 'no' and to tell them that what they want you to do doesn't interest you. Letting people pressure you into things will only make you feel bad in the end.

[Hellion]

Originally Posted by XantheoftheSun

Yep, yep. You sound like a classic introvert. And yes, I've felt the same way. In fact, I feel that way right now. The only thing is, is that not only can I never get some peace and quiet to myself, I can't even sleep without there being noise...

Maybe they'll all decide to go out somewhere soon enough and you can have the house all to yourself. And don't be afraid to say 'no' and to tell them that what they want you to do doesn't interest you. Letting people pressure you into things will only make you feel bad in the end.

Yeah, that is why I try to stick to my decision...even if they bother me about it. I mean if I was to just say 'Ok I'll go now that you've talked me into it' every time that's just leaving an invitation to try to pressure me into more things...and its good practice I suppose for dealing with people outside my family that might try and do that.

But yeah I hate being alone too much, but I do still need time to myself because I just get too overwhelmed and sometimes I do need to actually feel how I feel and think what i think without any input or distractions...otherwise it can be hard to know.

Originally Posted by Hellion

Yeah, that is why I try to stick to my decision...even if they bother me about it. I mean if I was to just say 'Ok I'll go now that you've talked me into it' every time that's just leaving an invitation to try to pressure me into more things...and its good practice I suppose for dealing with people outside my family that might try and do that.

But yeah I hate being alone too much, but I do still need time to myself because I just get too overwhelmed and sometimes I do need to actually feel how I feel and think what i think without any input or distractions...otherwise it can be hard to know.

Yeah, being alone too much is kinda like going from solitude to isolation. Being overwhelmed and not having time to think can confuse you about whether what you're feeling is your emotions or someone else's emotions being projected onto you. I had that problem once too. I used to live in a very crowded home where everybody else's emotions seemed to be extreme and there was too much drama going on. It stressed me out and going back and forth between people who always wanted my attention and wanting me to do this and do that only left room for negative feelings and being mentally exhausted. I don't live there anymore and because of that I was able to finally figure out what I'm feeling and what I'm thinking. All those negative emotions weren't really my own, they were just a result of being in a highly stressful environment with too many people.

[glok]

Hello, Hellion. Establishing boundaries and sticking to them is important for our emotional health.

I wish you well.