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Everyone seems to agree that is emotionally cathartic to clean, decluttering, throw away unused junk, etc.
Does anyone know the psychology behind it - why should that be psychologically more significant than other household tasks? |
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I think it is because when your house is clean, you feel good. when you feel good it raises your self esteem.
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I've been systematically going through everything in my house and shredding/donating everything I don't need. I've got a two bedroom house down to a small U-Haul trailer.
Yes, it is cathartic. I've divested myself of the past and have only what I need to survive. I could lose everything and easily start over because in the process I've shed materialism. I have nothing of value except the home itself, my car, a few boxes of family photos, and a ring. Now I don't care what happens to me. The impact of the loss will be minor. How did I get to this point? I went into psychosis and was denied access to everything personal during five hospitalizations. I was so heartbroken over material goods that I just snapped and the bond was broken. With the loss of my cats, whom I pined for all that time, my heart truly died. Getting rid of everything, at that point, was easy. I was ready to die. I still am. I. Am. Prepared. Last edited by Silent Void; Aug 02, 2014 at 06:45 PM.. |
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You have to make the bed, do the dishes, most other household tasks often or things look "bad". It's like antidepressants, they don't make you happy, they just make you "even"/not depressed. Most household tasks are small and repetitive so there is not much bang for the buck but if you let things slide, they all get out of balance and you get mess everywhere and clutter, the "doing"/experiential equivalent to depression. Action is the antidepressant that clears up the whole thing back to "even" until the next time you fail to keep up and slip into the black hole of household chaos, muahahaha. . . cough cough
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Neither my wife nor I are savers. If we don't see a more-or-less immediate use for something... out it goes! I've disposed of allot of stuff that I wish I had back now. But, at the time, it sure felt liberating to get rid of it! I can't say I've ever run across a psychological explanation for why this can feel so exhilarating... But I know it can!
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I cant stand clutter it makes me crazy.. Every few months I go through my closet and toss out more stuff ..I just dont want extra stuff around.
My husband on the other hand hes more the " norm" he has stuff .. Its a careful balancing act for me to not toss out all his stuff also ... Maybe its part of my Bipolar .. i dunno .. Everyday its the same chores.. I am one of the " I cant sleep if there are dishes in the sink " kinda people. Mentally I feel better when things are in order. __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~ |
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We acquired our stuff in the past and keep It because we anticipate using it in the future. Our stuff is always yammering about the past and nagging about thw future.
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I was once told = a cluttered house represents a cluttered mind...
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But, no, I don't know for sure the psychology behind it. Or why making the bed every day is associated with being less depressed. (Just a weird thing I heard one time.) I guess that's kind of like being willing to take those baby steps and get moving with the day. That the do-er deserves a pleasant environment. And that taking any action may give the momentum to take further actions. I don't know. But I can sure speculate. __________________ |
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I think decluttering and simplifying is cathartic in two ways:
(1) It gets rid of a "big pile of stuff" that reminds you of overwhelm all the time; (2) It's empowering and inherently motivating to see a visual difference in your living space due to a conscious effort you have made. It's like a gesture of defiance to feelings of helplessness, maybe? |
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I wouldn't know the effect of clutter clearing because I am a hoarder and live in squalor.
I even sunk to the depths of humiliation of being on a hoarding show but the "organizer" was not all that helpful except to help discard obvious trash and clean things. There was no real help for actual organizing of my possessions and I cannot locate many items that the "organizer" stashed into boxes/closets for out of sight, out of mind but that hasn't helped my house to be more functional. __________________ The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well. anonymous |
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Sorry to hear the help you received wasn't efficient enough to get you to a good place. I am not a hoarder however I do find motivation to keep up with my home much harder now that I live alone. It also includes with preparing, cooking, and cleaning for myself a big effort. I can get the trash into the bags but getting the bin out on the right night, I am and am not a great organizer. I 'm also starting to shred, shredding everything thats not relevant for the last 5 years, and still will have boxes of documents. A Disability Box, Medical Box, Tax Box, Bill Box, and it is working. You can come out from this and find your way. Now that my daughter has been out of the house, married, and now is expecting a baby boy this Nov it is time to reset my life. I think I'll have a lawn sale and everything left over will go to charity. I liked a lot of what the other posters said, I like what George said and will use that if a pile comes up. H. __________________ Happiedasiy, Selfworth growing in my garden |
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It is hard to give up "things" when that is all you are left with.
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For me many times other things are more important to me. I like to have things in there place and feel the reward when I "feel like" cleaning. But I'm not overly sensitive to it - my time may be more important doing something else - I do not pressure myself that the house is not tidy too - it's ok - I will get to it when I can.
Was not always like that - my x lived in a lot of clutter. He was OK with that and I fought it and would get angry a lot. Finally a compromise - he could clutter the office. Or if I saw his clutter & it bothered my I would move it to his office. When we would clean the house - he would say: "Now, everything is right in your world". If I could afford a maid I would not bother to clean - I have other things I want to do. There is no right answer for everyone. __________________ “A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany “Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge |
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There are many articles and books about the benefits...
here's one on stress busting: 6 Ways that Cleaning Can Alleviate Stress and another similar article: Organization as a Secret Weapon to Better Mental Health and one from the BBC BBC NEWS | Health | Cleaning 'improves mental health' __________________ |
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There was a time when my impulsiveness took control of my unorganized mind then. Today, declutter is cathartic and helps keep my mind clear. For me, provoked stressors set my mania rolling even when medicated. So, if I can be proactive to empower myself to prevent cycles, I'm in.
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Thank you for those resources.
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Hoarding is one of the most intractable issues ts confront - ie they cant fix it! |
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