[theysayimcrazy]

3 years ago, my two oldest daughters began playing with some friends named Gary and Marcus. Problem is, no one can see Gary or Marcus. I assumed because they are such small children, imaginary friends are ok. Gary and Marcus continued to live in our home and interact with my children. 3 weeks before my lease was up, my ex-husband came in the middle of the night and broke out my living room window after threatening me on Facebook. The children and I were forced to leave that same night. We moved in with my mom for about a month and Gary and Marcus followed. One day when I left the children with my mom and came back, she asked me who Gary and Marcus were. I told her the children play with them but we can't see them.

We moved into a condo and so did Gary and Marcus. I let a friend watch my kids while I went to work and when I returned home he asked me who Gary and Marcus were. I told him we can't see them. Another time I left the kids with him while I worked, he told me that my oldest daughter got mad with Marcus and hit him. Well, actually she hit the carpet and then walked in her room. He then said my other daughter came up front and hit the carpet in the exact same spot her sister had hit and said something mean to Marcus and went in her room. We both talked about it and felt that they could be playful spirits interacting with the children.

While we lived in the condo, we would visit my mom several times a week. A young man who stayed on her street would often blow his horn and wave at me. He would stare, smile and speak shyly everytime he saw me. I knew he liked me but I paid him no mind. For an entire year, this young man tried to get my attention but I wouldn't give in.

After the lease was up in my condo, we moved in with my mom again for a few weeks until house became available. (We moved once a year to try to throw my abusive ex-husband off our path.) I was outside one day when the young man rode past and blew his horn. I was in a playful mood so I smiled and waved not thinking he would back his car up to talk to me. Since that day we have spent every day together and even got married on Valentines Day 2012.

When my now husband and I first started talking, he revealed to me that he had an older brother named Gary who attended the same high school that I did. I didn't know Gary because he was a Freshman at the time. One day in 1997, 2 students from my school left campus to cut class and ended up getting shot in a case of mistaken identity. Gary died on the front porch of a nearby home and his friend, Omar was also shot but lived.

My children stopped talking to Gary and Marcus for a long time so I thought they were no longer "friends" with them. My husband and I both to this day talk about how strong of an attraction we had to each other from day one. Just recently, I was sitting around thinking and Gary and Marcus popped into my head. When I thought about it, I wondered if my husband's dead brother contacted my children in an effort to push me and my husband together so he could find true love. My husband is so content, he doesn't lie, cheat or beat me like my ex did.

Just 2 days ago or so, I overheard my girls talking to Gary and Marcus after a whole year. My issue is this: How do I tell my husband I think his dead brother befriended my children so that we could cross paths and live a happy life together? My husband already thinks I'm one step away from the Nut House, which is why I joined this site, so I don't want to add to his thoughts about my mental state. Do I just assume Gary and Marcus are great imaginary friends and leave it alone or do I go on my gut feeling and tell him what I really feel like is going on? Any suggestions?

[Rhapsody]

Originally Posted by theysayimcrazy

How do I tell my husband I think his dead brother befriended my children so that we could cross paths and live a happy life together?
Do I just assume Gary and Marcus are great imaginary friends and leave it alone or do I go on my gut feeling and tell him what I really feel like is going on? Any suggestions?

First off I would talk to the children and get more information from them and see if the facts actually add up to spirits being in this world or if this is just childhood friends (made up of their imagination) - FACTS NEVER LIE!!

I don't think it matters much either way but if you have this theory I don't think telling your husband about it is going to have a significant effect one way or the other.
I'm not following your logic on how these imaginary playmates got you and your husband together. Good luck

[Sanada]

I'll be honest; 'No', I don't think spirits are communicating with your children's imaginary friends. To influence current real life events/love for you and hubby.
But that's just me. I could be wrong.
Knowing your hubby's reaction to this information only you know. Like george said it should not make a difference. Good Luck. Hugs and Loves.
x

[roads]

If you are right about Gary, leave it to Gary to contact your husband and communicate a message--if that should be his wish.

That's how how I'd handle it, anyway.

[KathyM]

I do believe fate can bring people together, sometimes in strange ways, but it sounds more to me Gary and Marcus were imaginary friends. It could be a coincidence your husband had a brother named Gary - maybe not - but I would leave it alone. What matters is your relationship with your husband and your future together in the real world, not in the spirit world. You can still be thankful for the love you've found together, and you can still secretly thank Gary.

However, I know how hard it can be to keep it to yourself. At a good time, when you're both relaxed, you could mention the slight possibility. Even if you are certain, there is no way to prove it - so it would remain a slight possibility. What would matter is his reaction to that slight possibility. For you, it's a wonderful thing - but it might not be so wonderful to him. If he were to believe your opinion as truth, it might hurt his feelings to know his brother never bothered to contact and communicate directly with him - that he preferred to play with your children instead.

[twinarmageddons]

I honestly think it's a coincidence, and your kids are just being kids. Gary is a relatively common name, and the kids probably picked it up by overhearing it on a TV show, reading it somewhere, etc. Same thing with Marcus. Now, I'm not trying to totally debunk your theory or anything, I promise! It's almost sort of a cute theory, and it's a good story to keep in your head if it makes you feel good and more connected to your husband.

I think, however, that you should bring it up to your husband casually, if you haven't already. Just point out the odd coincidence of his brother and your children's imaginary friends having the same name, and see what he has to say about it! That shouldn't make you look too loony, and I'm sure your husband loves you very much and isn't going to go admit you to an institution or anything!

Best of luck!

That's really incredible. I talked to a spirit when I was a kid as well but I never saw him, he just talked to me a couple of times outside, we just kind of chatted for a couple minutes. Then, as a teenager, a ghost talked to me in an old building. I also had another experience where I saw a rotting dead person in the mirror as well that happened when I was about 14. All of these things happened while completely sober, spirits definitely exist because I've encountered them. Also, there was this house I was in where there clearly was a presence and my friend and I both heard footsteps upstairs. I've definitely had my share of experiences with the paranormal for sure and I think that a lot of what people say is legitimate. However, this is the nature of it, with some people not able to "tune into" it. The time the spirit spoke to me in that old building other people were there, but they couldn't hear anything, only I could. So, it's obvious that something is clearly happening with these types of experiences, but that only those who are more attuned to this sort of thing can experience it.

The other strange experience I had was with aliens that came into my room and experimented on me. Now, I don't think they were real in the traditional sense of the term, more related to the collective unconscious probably, but that happened a couple of times and it was really freaky to say the least. These grey beings came into my room and stuck this device into my stomach

[Hellion]

It might just be a coincidence, that he has a dead brother named Gary...what leads me to think that is how do you explain marcus? Though that is not to say it couldn't be spirits interacting with your kids...but it might not be related to your husbands brother.

I mean perhaps asking the kids about more detail would be a good idea to see if anything they say matches up to what your husband told you...Also though I'd think if he really cares about you and what not he'd be willing to hear your thoughts, but if he already thinks you're one step away from the nut-house something tells me he's not exactly on the same page as you....I mean is there any particular reason he thinks that?

I mean most everyone I know at least considers the possibility of things like spirits or ghosts interacting with the physical world even if we all have some different ideas about it...but some people find that kind of talk to be pure insanity.

[Slamjammer]

I think the first order of business is to decide for yourself whether spirits are real (as I do) or not. If you don't accept them as real, there is no point in having a conversation about it with your husband. Your kids simply have a couple of imaginary playmates, and who would argue otherwise?

On the other hand, if you do accept the presence of spirits, here are a few things to think about. Most of the reputable research in this area points out that children under the age of 6 or 7 are especially sensitive and aware of the presence of spirits. Very often the "unseen/imaginary" playmates are NOT simply imagined by the children. As children get older they tend to lose this awareness. You didn't say how old they were. Were they perhaps in this age bracket when this started?

Of course, even if you accept the reality of Gary and Marcus, has the "playmate" Gary ever expressed any connection with the "brother" Gary? I know it makes a great story, and perhaps it's true, but it's a leap that's difficult to make without some basis.

For moment, perhaps the conversation with your husband should simply set forth that your kids have some imaginary playmates named Gary and Marcus; that you expect that they will grow out of it eventually, and let it go at that.

If there is to be a spiritual connection between the two Garys, the opportunity will present itself, IMHO.

Good luck to you !

[Open Eyes]

It sounds like the older child has imaginary friends and your younger child is just going along with it.

Why don't you "casually" ask your oldest child about these friends and how she met them and what does she know about them? Don't tell this child what you think at all, just ask her and see what she says.

Oh, and let us all know what your daughter says too.

Who knows, really? No one. I believe in spirits, ghosts, spirit guides, angels, fairies...whatever names we give those who inhabit a different, but sometimes overlapping, plane than we humans do. You might find this site interesting: Spiritual Forums