I don't feel like I belong anywhere

I've spent 8 years in my new country (married a native of the country) and have just recently returned from a visit for the first time in those 8 years to my home country. I spent most of my 8 years in my new country miserable, not adapting to life here and wishing I was back in my home country.

When I was back in my home country I just couldn't see myself living there anymore. It is cold and dark for most of the year. The standard of living is low but the costs of living there are high. I use to miss my family all the time but going back there I realized how far I have drifted from them, how far they have drifted from each other and they really got on on my nerves in the few weeks I was there.

So I've been in Australia for 8 years and in most ways I feel like I haven't made my new country "home". I haven't had a real job since I moved here, I have zero friends and I've spent the whole time I was here wanting to be back in my home country. But now that I've gone back I realize I don't feel like I belong there either.

How do I finally make my new country "home"? How do I stop feeling resentful of my husband for "making" us live here?

(((Marceline V.Q)))

I am so sorry that you are feeling this way in Australia. I have felt the same way that you do. I am in a state in the US that I don't like. I don't feel that I belong here either. I have some different problems as I am estranged from my family and I really don't have a home to go to. I think home is where you make it. I don't even have a spouse to be unhappy with so I am alone. I think it is about deciding whether your relationship is worth it. If you love him then you can make that country your home. If you don't then that is another thing. Sometimes when I feel this way I think about the things that I do have. I look to my higher power and am thankful for the simplest of things like a roof and food and things like that. I look at the most basic of things.

I hope this helps in some small way. I wish you the very best. I wish I could be more helpful. Blessings.

Thank you sideblinded for the reply.

Oh I love that man, it's what made me stick it out for 8 years.

I'm sorry to read that you are in a place you don't like and without support of family.

I to try to be grateful for the small things and it does help. Maybe it's the lack of social connections that makes me feel like I don't belong here? If so that sucks for me because, dealing with people in real like, blah.

I was misplaced at age 12 from my home country. It is tough battle, now I am in my new land so to speak... I made a baby here. This is my home now at age 50 Gosh.. wish you peace and luck in your battles. It is not easy.