[Koko2]

I'm okay with not having any children, I think, but one thing that really gives me pause is I have no one to leave my photos, so I'm guessing they'll wind up in the garbage or being sold on Ebay. I don't have a lot of faith that my siblings' families would value them. I guess in 1,000 years, or even 100 years, most people's photos will be discarded or forgotten anyway unless they're uploaded to Facebook.

[Crazy Hitch]

Hi Koko2

I have never thought about this before, this is an interesting concept.

I would like to hope that one day I may leave memories to those who I've shared moments with.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Koko2

I'm okay with not having any children, I think, but one thing that really gives me pause is I have no one to leave my photos, so I'm guessing they'll wind up in the garbage or being sold on Ebay. I don't have a lot of faith that my siblings' families would value them. I guess in 1,000 years, or even 100 years, most people's photos will be discarded or forgotten anyway unless they're uploaded to Facebook.

you can always write a will. thats a document that people write that tells who they wan to get what of their personal belongings and money after they pass away...

example before I was married my will stated which of my siblings got what of my personal belongings and a friend of mine was also mentioned in my will as was many other important people in my life. I even mentioned in my will who would have custody of my pets. now that Im married my wife is the one that gets most of my personal belongings...

you can write up your will to stipulate anything in any way you want it (as long as its not some illegal activity like so and so can take over the drug dealing business yes that has actually happened to someone I know lol)

my point is if you are worried about whats going to happen to your photos when you are gone write a will detailing what you want to happen to them upon your death.

[SnakeCharmer]

I live in a semi-rural area that has a county museum with a section on family histories. People are encouraged to organize their photos, especially if they go back a ways, with proper labeling, names and dates, in albums, with introductory letters or stories. If there are family histories or diaries, those can be included. If they're properly organized, they can be donated to the museum at the time of death. They won't take batches of unlabeled photos. They're looking for something that will show the history of individuals and families in a linear order.

The local Mormon Church helps people organize because they have a great interest in genealogy. You can also get organizing info free on-line.

This is not the sort of thing the Museum of Modern Art would be interested in, but museums that specialize in local history, the history departments of community colleges and universities, some libraries, and other similar organizations might be interested in a well organized family history and photos.

I also have a friend who has no family. She puts her photos up on-line and several have been used in books. She has an inexpensive digital camera and no training, but she has a good eye for the historic aspects of life.

In the meantime, I hope you enjoy your photos yourself in whatever way you can. I have no photos of my parents, only one of my brother and none of my sister, due to a family member who hoarded all the photos for themselves and wouldn't budge an inch. So it goes. Some people, huh?

[Koko2]

What website does your friend upload her photos to? The reason for this thread is that I don't have any family that I would want to leave my photos to, so I'm not interested in doing a family history for a museum, and I don't want them on Facebook or in Salt Lake City either, though maybe those are the best options for saving them from the garbage heap of time.

Another option I just thought of is a blog. I don't have an online blog. What are some good websites for this, and do they remain after one's death?

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Koko2

What website does your friend upload her photos to? The reason for this thread is that I don't have any family that I would want to leave my photos to, so I'm not interested in doing a family history for a museum, and I don't want them on Facebook or in Salt Lake City either, though maybe those are the best options for saving them from the garbage heap of time.

one thing you need to know about uploading to websites. websites come and go and usually if someone hasnt logged into their account in a space of time their photos and account get deleted along with the website or updating the website.

as for you not wanting them on facebook or in a public place like a museum or some city, .....well frankly and to the point....

after you are gone you have no control over what you have left behind. the only sure way to make sure your photos dont get put on facebook or other places you dont want them to after you are gone is by you destroying the photos, negatives disks memory cards, cell phones computer what ever you used to take and save those photos on. once you place a photo on the internet they are only private for how ever long the account holder continues to log in and keep their privacy settings set. uploading so some website isnt going to keep your photos from being placed out there for all to see including facebook once you are gone.

if you really dont want your photos to be used in ways you dont want after you are gone the only way is to destroy all evidence of them.

[Koko2]

I see your point, but that would be like cutting off my nose to spite my face(book).

[divine1966]

I really don't care that much what happens when I die. I do have a daughter and I have no plans of dying and hopefully I will live until I am old as me dying in younger age would devastate my daughter BUT saying that whatever happens with my things when I die doesn't bother me as I will be dead.

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All my memory photos will probably die with the hard drive I have them backed up on!

[Koko2]

Originally Posted by divine1966

hopefully I will live until I am old as me dying in younger age would devastate my daughter BUT saying that whatever happens with my things when I die doesn't bother me as I will be dead.
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Then you could instruct your daughter to sell your photos on Ebay to help pay for her college or something like that.

[kim_johnson]

I hope my Mother didn't have me in the hopes that I'd want all her photos once she's gone... I know they mean something to her... But, uh, they don't really mean anything to me. I don't really understand photos. I don't understand why people on vacation are too busy taking photos to experience their vacation. I don't understand why people look at photos instead of remembering. I don't understand why people want to externalise their memory... Engrave it in stone... Perhaps it is because my memory / history is mostly painful... I'm happy to take all the constructive re-remembering features I can get

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Koko2

Then you could instruct your daughter to sell your photos on Ebay to help pay for her college or something like that.

She is long done with college. She will keep the pictures of course, I am just saying I don't care what happens after I die. Ido care that my family will be ok but what happens to pics not so much

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[Koko2]

Originally Posted by divine1966

She is long done with college. She will keep the pictures of course, I am just saying I don't care what happens after I die. Ido care that my family will be ok but what happens to pics not so much

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That's nice you care more about your family than your photos. Maybe she could sell your photos on Ebay to pay for the funeral.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Koko2

That's nice you care more about your family than your photos. Maybe she could sell your photos on Ebay to pay for the funeral.

What the heck. What are all these ideas? Why would she sell my photos? We keep family pictures and pas them on. I already said she will keep the pics as well as I have two nephews and a niece. By then might have grandkids.

I just said I don't care what happens when I die as I will be dead, enough to worry while we are alive. Why are you suggesting my daughter gets rid of family pics? Really weird. I like to tell my daughter what weird stuff I read on forums I'll tell her this and we'll laugh. So weird.

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[sideblinded]

Since I have no children I will have someone send my photos of the family to my brother's family. Just get an envelope and ask that the albums be sent to another family member. Just a thought.

[avlady]

hopefully my son would keep the photos, i have them cut out and placed with glue on big frames in my hallway. that way they are all together.

[Koko2]

Originally Posted by sideblinded

Since I have no children I will have someone send my photos of the family to my brother's family. Just get an envelope and ask that the albums be sent to another family member. Just a thought.

That's a great option for you.

[jaynedough]

OMG... I can't believe that someone else has the exact same worry that I'm struggling with. I don't have kids and my brother's kids don't seem to be interested. Photography is a huge part of who I am. In my will, I've left my photos and artwork to a friend who has encouraged me to continue with photography. I trust him with them. One thing I've considered is asking him to see if some can be used to raise money for mental illness concerns and awareness.

Kim... For me, photography *is* a vacation. If you have memory and /or thought d/o's, pix can be very helpful. Also, I love going through old photos of family members who died long before my time. I've been scanning those old photos for extended family members, who are happy to be able to get them and frequently ask for them.

Photos aren't just for yourself; they're also for sharing.

[tradika]

They keep them as a way of bringing a memory they had together back to them. They are also a lasting record of experiences that person had. Think about the way some tastes or other sensory information brings back a memory of childhood. A photo does it visually. If you haven't met the deceased, if they are our ancestors, keeping them or bibles with info in it is a way to honor their memory. That they were more than DNA.

This was in a reply to kimjohnson.