[InfiniteSadness]

I get confused easily all the time.. indecisive, I literally don't even know what to do next sometimes it gets so bad. I don't really know who i am and i cant "be myself".. I'm scared of this. (feel like im gonna be stuck the rest of my life) (also afraid of making any decisions) I have no idea what i'm doing most of the time.

[InnovateYoung21]

Try maybe slowing things down, take more time to think about things, start writing things down such as weighing pros and cons of decisions...this can help you to take small steps to improving your indecisiveness. Try writing 3 things about yourself and 3 things that you like (examples reading, playing sports) this will start you off on figuring yourself out and you can later expand on your lists.

I think it's a part of the process of finding yourself to be lost and not have a complete picture of who you are but that doesn't mean you can't start looking now !

[InfiniteSadness]

I do write stuff down. Its just a TERRIBLE feeling not being SURE of anything. And not really standing for anything. Apathy as well.

[brackenbeard]

I've been there. Writing things down helped, and definetly writing down supportive messages about myself was good.

[gnat]

I am there too. I have periods of time I'm afraid I'm losing my mind. It comes and goes as a passing tide, and I feel I have no choice but to wait it out and hope I don't cause too big of a mess before the tide turns again.

It's funny because I've always known extreme confusion is a symptom of depression, but I only a short time ago realized this is what was happening, it is most likely my uncontrolled depression that has taken my mind hostage.

I try to make patterns, routines, to help me not f up so often. It helps but isn't perfect. I have also found at work taking a moment away from my coffin (the endearing term I have for my cubicle) either to sneak a two minute mindful meditation in (incredibly helpful for me to reset my mind, there is a group on here that explains it) or even sometimes when it's not so severe it helps to distract myself for a moment by engaging someone in conversation that is completely irrelevant to whatever task I am trying to do.

For me this helps, but it is just a band aid. I need to stabilize myself to truly get it under control. In the meantime I will tell myself, "I'm not crazy, it's life that is."

[CastlesInTheAir]

I know what you mean. At this point, I feel like I don't "get" confused because I stay confused, I want to "get" unconfused.

[penguinsing]

I know this, I was there too. Then I met a counselor who is helping me.
I still am confuse, but I am better now.

[the sad queen]

i have same feeling, i still have depression, it started from silly things that recently happened in my life but its not for me.
sometimes i ask myself who am i?
why am i so depressed its not important thing to be depressed for?
why i feel so stuck and suffocating?
and taking decisions makes me really scared especially if i didn't know where they will lead me. another big problem i can recall event i didnt like dozens of times that i feel i will bury myself.
i think everything i am thinking about and happening to me now makes me feel confused!
i used to cope with that feeling by writing songs or parts from the story i am working on now, sometimes i try to pretend to be stable person, it doesnt work all the time but better than nothing, school and studying also helps me because it makes me stop thinking for longer time.

[InfiniteSadness]

It comes in the form of disorientation and disorganization as well, scattered brain. i have no idea if this is all depression, sounds strange.. My mother thinks its my ocd

Dear Infinite, I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with this. I can feel your sadness in your words.

Having said that, I have only practical advice for you. Do you have a primary care doctor? If so, it might be time for a checkup to see if there's some non-psychiatric illness that's causing problems. Any prescription meds, OTC meds, and supplements should be evaluated to see if they could be causing problems.

Next is to get your psych meds prescriber to take a look at your psych meds.

Someone else mentioned lists and tips like that to help. (If I do that, I still need to put a big sign on the wall that says "Check your lists, check your calendar" in a place where I can't miss seeing it.)

I have some problems like the ones you mentioned but maybe not as bad. Or maybe I have just had the option to cut back my list of responsibilities more. I did just get a letter in the mail yesterday telling me that I forgot to send in some very important paperwork and am going to suffer undesirable consequences because of it.

I haven't figured out what's causing my problems, although there's one med I take that I'd like to stop taking but haven't yet because it will involve months of tapering.

Therapy helps me, too. It seems to free up mental and emotional energy for me.

Then there's diet, exercise, supplements, acupuncture, meditation...well, you know how it is when you have a chronic illness. The list is endless.

If you've already done all the above, hugs to you. Hugs anyway. I have some days when my brain is totally, normally clear and it feels so good, but there aren't many of them.

[Hellion]

I don't know if this is quite the same as what you experience, but I can have a very difficult time deciding on anything, even something as simple as picking clothes to wear for the day can take a frustratingly long amount of time for me.

Also it takes me quite a while to make selections like at the grocery store or when i have to shop for anything else, I might spend 30 minutes trying to figure out which one of an item to buy. If I write a list I still manage to forget things on it...I always misplace things, which just adds to confusion.

[Fuzzybear]

[eeguy]

InfiniteSadness,

have you been able to identify or learn anything more about this problem? I found this post while googling similar symptoms and I'm glad I finally found someone who feels the same way that I do. Any insight would be much appreciated...

Scott