[layla11]

I really dread work, I know I'm not the only one. I can hardly make it through a full week at work. The weekends I' m so tierd. I get up at 5:30 and get off at 4:00. Then have to face the traffic coming home. The weekend go's by so fast then its back to the same. I can hardly get myself to shower and wash my hair. My husband died and now its just me. I just have no will to do almost anything. But working is getting to me.

is their something about working that bothers you more than anything else?

perhaps someone who you don't get on with, or maybe loss of interest in your job, or something like that

that's a good place to start... look at what you're doing now and think to yourself

now, am i happy

[Frankbtl]

Hi layla, firstly I'm sorry for your loss
I'm thinking that could be an underlying problem and/or depression, with work being so hard (harder??) for you?? If so maybe some help/support with that??
But work itself........is there anything you could think of that might make it a bit easier for you?? Colleagues you could talk more too?? Any extra support you could get from your boss?? Any way you could reduce or change your hours a little?? Any holiday you're owed if you need a bit of a break?? Any more interesting part of your job you could try to focus in on a little more?? Any changes you could make in tasks e.g. bring easier ones forward to the start of the day or to later in the day for a bit of a wind down??
Or maybe reward yourself for a "good day" or have something you can look forward to for when you finish work??
Just wondering if now you're on your own you might be having a little less "going on" if you've been struggling with that??? So if.........maybe you could add some more activities, kind of have more of a balance in your life with more things you might enjoy??
Unless of course it's time to look for something new/different in job market??? Maybe not easy but..........
Still.........just some thoughts.............
Alison

[brainhi]

I remember when I was going through a major depression & felt much of what you were talking about. I had a really hard time going to work and then after work I wanted to go home and isolate. Many weekends I watched tv and slept. I found very little pleasure in anything. It took awhile for me to get better. For me there was no magic solution - It just took time, meds and therapy. You really need help to get through this if you are not already working with someone one. Glad you are here.. we can definitely listen..BTW like your panda walking and your whale jumping... now, only if you could feel like that .. right?
Be good to yourself and give yourself time to get better.

[Restin]

It's really sad and depressing to lose someone and then have to do all for just yourself. You definitely need a T to talk to, or a counselor, or social worker (depending on what you can afford). Look on the computer for your area and see who you can get with, or a clinic, even. You need to have someone to talk to who won't cut you off with their own stuff. Even talking on a hotline can help some. Not that any of it is supposed to take the place of your lost husband, but it's just better to talk to someone than not talk.