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Old Jun 09, 2015, 09:27 PM
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So last week I had the symptoms of a heart attack. Many people have had heart issues in my family so I figured it would be a smart move to go to the er. Once I get there I am put into a hospital gown and ask to lie down after they attacked heart monitors and out in an IV.
Problem is.... I kinda liked it. Of course I was hoping I didn't have a heart attack (which I didn't), but it was kinda nice to have people care for me. The nurse and dr visited very little but once my bff (and the most important person in my life) found out, he rushed to the hospital. His concern always makes me feel good. Yet, I feel bad for liking being care for and for the attention. Am I bad?
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Old Jun 09, 2015, 09:31 PM
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It's only human to like feeling cared for... I don't think that is an issue.. the issue would be if you start doing things (i.e going to ER) for the fix of having someone come to care for you...

Glad your doing OK and didn't have an heart attack --- Did they figure out what was up? Was it anxiety attack related....? I hope your feeling better today.
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Old Jun 11, 2015, 04:53 AM
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I think that you made an extremely wise choice going to the ER. These types of situations are best managed by medical professionals.

No, I don't believe you are at all bad for having appreciated the attention.

After the fright that you went through, I think that your family / friends were relieved and it's their way for expressing how much they care for you. I say, enjoy

And may you never land up with a nasty scare like that again though (with your heart; because I can imagine that was scary .... I've had emergency trips to the ER due to heart concerns too)
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Old Jun 11, 2015, 09:55 AM
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I love being in the hospital. I have some long standing serious health issues, so once and a while I'm there for something. It's the only time I ever feel like I'm being taken care of. It provides a lot of needs I've never had fulfilled. I hope sometime to find a wife who will make me feel loved and cared for, but right now I'm alone. I'm also very touch deprived. I was recently in the hospital for 12 days for a test. My blood pressure went from 150 over something to 130. There might have been different reasons for that, but I'm sure being taken care of was a big one.
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Old Jun 11, 2015, 04:16 PM
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No way, your not bad at all. Sounds like you just want to be loved and cared for. You want nice and good attention for your loved ones.

Could I ask? In your past and childhood, were you neglected? were there alot of times where you didn't recieve any attention?
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Old Jun 11, 2015, 06:07 PM
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No way, your not bad at all. Sounds like you just want to be loved and cared for. You want nice and good attention for your loved ones.

Could I ask? In your past and childhood, were you neglected? were there alot of times where you didn't recieve any attention?
Yes. My dad neglected me. I went most of my life with my needs unheard.
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Old Jun 12, 2015, 06:51 AM
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That's most likely why you like the attention, because you never had the attention from your dad. This is only natural and it isn't bad of you. It's totally understandable.

Your not like those people who manipulate others into getting what you want and getting attention. So don't feel bad ok?
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Old Jun 12, 2015, 01:49 PM
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I understand that feeling.....when my mother was dying & I went through a trauma with the home care person stealing her ID & abusing her & a bunch of other things that got the police & APS involved, I also was dealing with anorexia & ended up in the medical hospital at the same time my mother ended up dying. Honestly it was the best place I could have been.....I was taken care of though I still wasn't able to eat, my MD had the hospital's staff pdoc & psychologist come in to see me daily & even though I was going through tests to find out if it was more than a psychological reason for not eating & I ended up with IV nutrition through a central line after I got back in the hospital after the funeral......it was the one place where I could finally relax & feel safer because I didn't know what the home care person might do to get even for being caught.

There are times after coming home from hospital stays after having been taken care of that it's hard to get back normal life. I remember my mother said something about that one time her MD had told her that it's hard to go back home after being taken care of in the hospital & sometimes people have a depressed feeling at that point.

It's normal to want to be cared about & even taken care of in life...it's a normal desire of every human & isn't only when we block that feeling from happening. I know even moving to where I did after finally leaving my H 8 years ago....I am now around people who truly care about me....it was such an unusual feeling I'm still trying to get used to it because I didn't know anyone when I moved here & now I'm surrounded by caring people like I've never experienced EVER before in my life......it's a wonderful feeling.....
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