[alm15]

Hi everybody! For the first time my 9 year old daughter said she wanted to run away. She said she hates it "here." She pointed out some of the things I'm doing that are making her miserable and what she pointed out was valid. I'm trying really hard to be a good parent. I know my illnesses result in behavoirs that are hard for her. I'm giving her the best life I can. I work really hard at getting better. This has really hurt me. Now she's outside playing basketball and I don't want to leave my room. I'm fighting off the urge to punish myself. I'm probably taking this too seriously or too much to heart. Any suggestions?

[bptoo]

Hi alm,

I'ts amazing how early in life our kids learn how to say just the right thing to get our attention. She may be angry about something that has nothing to with you, but you're there. Have you discussed your illnesses with her so that she knows how life is for you? Our kids can be very understanding and want to help us if we'll let them. Mine were pretty amazing when I finally sat them down and explained. There's more than just her anger there, there are the real reasons for it. Sit her down and talk to her about what happened, let her know that you want to help her feel better about all this. She may just need some extra attention right now.

Don't shut yourself off from her. And don't blame yourself for things that are beyond your control. If the two of you work together, my bet is that everything will be fine.

Big hugs to both of you,
Greg



"Beauty is truth, truth is beauty - that is all you know on earth, and all you need to know"

[Starbuck]

I would have like to run away, many times, you couldn't count them...

Now alm, I will tell you this :

This is only my opinion, but there goes..

To me, if you took the time, and the trouble, to say this, well, to me, you should be proud.

Sincerely,

Starbuck

Born in 1963 of French mom and Canadian dad. Majors in History and Theology. Master in Sociology.