[skittles]

my mom got some bad news today....... she went back to the pain doc today and they told her that shes not gonna get any better that shes just gonna get worse.. she has Fibromyalgia plus bad veritbras in her back and a few other things wrong with her.......... shes been deined 3 times for ssi....... her doc wrote a good letter to.. saying she cant work.. the stupid pain place that tells her she is only gonna get worse and that theres nothing to do for her wont write her a letter.. if they would im almost certain she would get the ssi ..... shes even gotten a lawyer and still got denied...... the governments soical worker lady at the trial she went to said theres something my mom could do..... they said she could do an office job.. but her legs and stuff cramp so bad and so often shes always having to jump up cause shes in so much pain...... . i feel so bad for her.... what makes me so mad is ppl that dont deserve it get it.. like ppl u see on tv who they cautch frauding the gov. for ssi/disablity.. just like my uncle... he claims he has a bad back but he goes to work everyday working on houses but still collects ssi/disablity......... grrrrr to the docs and the government........

[InACorner]

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[Soidhonia]

(((SKITTLES)))
I am sorry about the news about your mother. Please try to take care of your own mental health as well Skittles. During this time of need. soidhonia

i'm sorry, skittles........

i hope your mom is feeling better, skittles. xoxoxo pat

[skittles]

thank you...... shes about the same....... shes also depressed i think she should see someone for it but she wont.. she says" they will just say im makin it up....."

[kimmydawn]

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thoughts and prayers.

KD

I'm sorry about your mom skittles.

Please let her know that depression with serious or prolonged illness is very common and most doctors know this and will treat it along with the medical illness. But, the doctor doesn't know if a patient is depressed unless the patient says they are, so it is up to her to let her doctor know.

Or course she's depressed about being in pain and now hearing that it is something she will have to learn to live with. That must be very hard.

I hope she gets a lot of support so she can stay as active as she can. Staying active is important physically and emotionally, too.


ECHOES

[skittles]

yeah i know...... shes been depressed long before the pain though...... but i was to young to really notice... but through out the years i tell her and still am trying to get her to see someone.. but she still insists that the doc will just say shes making it up and that she cant talk to other ppl about her prob..... she will only talk to me. my sister , and my aunt....

depression and physical illness just feed one another. i truly hope that you can get your mom to get help. i know how much you love your family...........xoxoxox pat

I see. Well you can keep encouraging her to talk to her doctor.

You can also let her doctor know that she's talked to you about her depression. He can't discuss her treatment with you but he can receive information from you or your sister or aunt. Maybe she needs you to be her voice for this at this time, to get things started, then she can take it from there.

[(JD)]

Oh (((skittles))) I'm sorry to hear all this you and your mom are going through. Keep all the records of the ssi requests and copies of the applications etc... it will be retroactive once she is approved.

There is a lot of documentation regarding fibromyalgia. Make sure your attorney is on top of this.

Chronic pain causes depression. Even if she was depressed prior to the fibromyalgia being dx'd, she should still go to a psychologist who specializes in pain management... they can help immensely. (I see one, and he keeps me alive through my pain and fatigue and all that stuff.)

It's good that she has you and other family to share with, but that is a huge burden on you...and she really does need a professional who can help her progress. Someone who will, with expertise, validate her over and over regarding what she is experiencing.



Sky

[January]

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I'm so sorry you and your Mom are going through this. Everyone has given you excellent tips, so there is nothing I can add there, but you both are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs,

Jan

[Fuzzybear]

[tranquility]

My thoughts are with you and your mom Skittles. It's a viscious circle, pain causes depression and depression can make pain (at least fibro pain) worse.

I hope she gets help and relief soon.

Tranquility

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[skittles]

thanks everyone..... ((((((( hugs)))))))....... im hoping once she files another claim with ssi they will help her.....