And there's not much I can do except play the hand I have been dealt. In comparison, I guess it's a good life but there are things that I cannot change. There are issues I cannot fix. Some decisions are not mine to make.

Wishing does me no good, but I can't help but see how it could have been.

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

And there's not much I can do except play the hand I have been dealt. In comparison, I guess it's a good life but there are things that I cannot change. There are issues I cannot fix. Some decisions are not mine to make.

Wishing does me no good, but I can't help but see how it could have been.

I'm sorry.

You're wise to have an awareness that there are things that you cannot change, issues that you cannot fix, and decisions that are not for you to make.

Life is not fair. I don't know why a mean person lives to the age of 100 while a 2-year-old girl dies from leukemia.

Your life is not over. You still have the opportunity to love, live, learn and inspire.

You can't help everyone, but everyone can help someone.

[1976kitchenfloor]

Hello. Regrets.. They always feel worse when we are down or facing a rough patch.
I can really really relate to this post. My life has turned out to completely off the map of what I looked to and planned on and worked for when I was young.

Here I am now. No college degree. No profession. No status or active role in the community. Pretty pathetic? I'm the only one in either my or my husbands family that is without financial security , whose never had a real vacation, and who frankly is quite poor. compared to all the other wives I am a zilch. so, Whats wrong with me?

Well, nothing as long as I dont feel sorry for myself and worry about what I dont have. Why waste time and energy on what we miss and wish was different when ther is today to live?
I have survived and triumphed over a hell of a lot. I am here.
At my age, almost seventy years old, and being retired now, I cant take the time or spend the money to go back to school again. (Can you see the look on the financial officers face when I tell them I want a student loan?) I love learning. I have alwys been so curious. So Now I read and get on the internet where there are TED talks and university courses for free as long as you arent doing them for credit.

You and I cant change the past. If your marriage isnt great then decide wheither or not you want to work on making it better. If your job isnt that great fiure out what you can do to make things better. Small things can add up and make a real difference.
Re the things tou cant change but are not happy with or re things you regret and wish were different, change what you can . Life sure aint perfect. IT takes a lot of work to get it right.

Be kind to yourself and if you a re in a relationship, to your significant other. God only knows, he might feel the same way.
LEt go of what you didnt get and work for the here and now. I know that personally, I can do a lot of things that make me feel better about myself, my circumstances and my lot in life. I try to eat well and exercise. I keep active and have hobbies that I work hard at. I read and keep learning. I go on walks and get grounded when I garden. Every day I learn something new.

Forget about wishing. You're right about that. Wishing doesnt do me or you any good.

Instead, Take stock and make a plan to make your life work for you in the here and now. There is a lot you can do once you move away from past regrets and forwards into a brighter future you can feel more invested in.

[unaluna]

I just finished reading a book, "the obstacle is the way". Very inspiring! I wish i had been taught these things as a child, but back then the message i got was, you cant do that cuz youre a GIRL. I wanted to be an astronaut.