[Xaldin]

Anyone know a good resource when it comes to explaining or sharing your thoughts fluidly and simplistically?

I've developed the habit of when I talk to some one or explain something online it's absurdly complex... like writing a book for something that doesn't need such a lengthy response. Mainly because when I did attempt to be simple or straightforward I come off overly blunt or even rude and it doesn't really get my point across.

Face to face conversations are the worst for me. I have to spend so much time thinking and being silent that the other person thinks im zoning out or stupid. When actually Im spending time and energy figuring out how to explain something. Its like Im trying to think of every possible aspect rather than respond with something simple and then have to go back and forth because its really hard for me because I can rarely respond immediately or fluidly.

So yeah... I don't know if its just as issue of overthinking, confidence in speaking, lack of vocabulary or what. Anyone got any ideas?

[TishaBuv]

I thought you explained that just fine.

I'm not sure what makes someone a good teacher or story teller.

I think you tell a story or communicate an idea by making sure you hit all the key points in order, and giving enough back story someone needs to understand.

My dad drives me crazy when he tries to teach me something because first he'll explain how the thing was invented and how it is made before he'll just teach me how to use it.

I like to be taught by a simple process-- do this first, then this...

You also need to be able to understand your audience and relate to them, to talk to them in the way they will understand.

My ex-husband wasn't the sharpest crayon in the pack (what did I ever see in him?) and I developed a habit of speaking slowly and over-explaining myself. Now I find this creeping into my regular convrsations and I feel like an idiot. I've even spoken to my therapist about this.

She says I'm just a good story teller. Still, after a conversation is over I kick myself and worry too that the other individual thinks I've spoken down to them.

Adding to the problem is my medication induced 'word dumbness'. I will lose a word mid-sentence and then have to use several more to describe the one resulting in further dragging on the conversation. Help, I'm doing it now!

I guess I'm saying I do it too and haven't a clue how to prevent it.

[eskielover]

My parents always needed more explaining than normal people & still didn't get it most of the time. Then I married a guy who supposedly had a high IQ but couldn't communicate worth a darn. I would say something to him & he would look at me as if I was speaking in a foreign language. For 33 years I had to repeat myself & figure out different ways to say the same thing to try to get through his head.

I finally left him & realized that I was learning to communicate with normal people & it wasn't like the difficult experience I had lived with all my life for 54 years. I think writing replies here & posting on Facebook & also my DBT group gave me a better understanding of so much. All this put together has helped me with being more concise with my conversations & my writing & still say what needs to be said.

Amazing how the environment we end up in can really mess with our ability to communicate.

Many times I would think of what I wanted to say but someone elas was talking or what I was saying would get interrupted. I would just forget about bothering. Now it feels like people I'm around listen or come back to me if something else came up & they really hear what I'm saying. The first time that happened I got so flustered I forgot what I was going to say because I was so used to never being heard anyway & sometimes I would loose my train on thought. That isn't happening like it used to....go figure the older you get the worse the memory is supposed to get....I'm working in reverse.

Put yourself around people who aren't difficult to communicate with. Sometimes a speach class can help or join toast masters to learn & PRACTICE speaking concisely can help also.

[handheart]

Well i think you should think in your find that you speak perfectly and you explain very good ,if you focus on being absurd and not speaking well the brain will give you the results .An example its the people who think all time they are shy the brain makes them shy ,people who think they are confident ,brain makes them confident